Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Agreed. And hate to say that I hung on for much longer than I should have due to the oneitis I had for the person I thought she was. In a much better place now without her in the picture.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Well look at it this way, she’s had a lifetime perfecting that type of personality. That’s what makes them dangerous, you have no idea what you’re walking into. Once you experience it though, hopefully you’ll recognize the signals next time but don’t let it make you crazy thinking EVERY nice woman is a narcissist in the beginning.
From what I've learned after TRM, you do the same as soon as she withdraws after the Love bombing stage. You double it with dread game and competition anxiety. You give hints you are out fcking around or dating but she can never actually confirm it. You just make it look like you are. ie sampling perfume and telling her you were with a friend or answering texts in front of her. It sparks her imagination and builds attraction.
Oh I made a lot of mistakes with her, but honestly I don’t think normal game would have worked. It would have bought you a couple extra months maybe but that’s it. The thing about this woman is she had a pattern, all of her relationships she told me about had one thing in common.....they all lasted “about a year”. She never gave a specific time limit but she mentioned that to me several times and the timelines match up. I was doing something right and didn’t even realize it because my lovebombing stage came about 3 different times during the course we dated. It got shorter each time but that’s how they hook you, if you turned them back 3 times why not try for a 4th? You’re basically playing with a woman that can’t love, doesn’t show affection (except in the beginning and she’s faking it then).
It’s never too late to look her up on Facebook and ask her to finally let you motorboat them tittays.lol
Pretty much what I'm dealing with now. I got into this the past few weeks. Someone I was seeing since last year admitted to me since the beginning that she had cheated on all 3 of her past LTR bf's. Red flags. She was a hot stripper so I ignored it and fell in love with. If you want the full story you can check my original post. I came home on March 11 from a work trip and found out she was shacked up with someone else in quarantine. At 32 i'm just learning about Red Pill.
So weird that she’s 32. The girl I mentioned was 33 and had the same going nowhere kind of life. I saw her last year (think she’s 35 now) and her looks have faded FAST. She’s still got the hint of what she had but she’s losing it fast. She also smoked weed daily, sometimes 2 or 3 times a day, rented a house (never going to own one in her life probably), worked retail as some assistant manager, chasing after the same types of guys. I treated her well, didnt simp too hard but I did stuff for her that no one else ever did. Example, she’s a huge Alan Jackson fan, so I took her to an Alan Jackson concert and I have connections in Nashville in the country music business and was able to get her a personalized autograph and hand written letter from him to her for her birthday. They won’t forget guys like us, be prepared for a phone call or text or message in a few years. The wall had a way of making them think back on their life and guys like us stand out. Not saying simping is good, but dial it back some and you’ll be ok.
everything you’re describing is what my last ex did a few years ago. lovebombing in the beginning, etc. I wasn’t even naive a few years ago and I still somehow found myself falling for her. she was damn good at faking it...
The funny thing is if you back off awhile, I bet you could go back and start the love bombing phase all over. That’s if the relationship didn’t end badly. If you “unmask” them yourself then you’ll never be able to go back. But I didn’t know what I was dealing with so I never unmasked her even though she took hers off a few times. I figured up my patters with her though and she could never go more than 3 months before she’d turn from great to bad.
Did the 16 month girl end up contacting you to meet up or how’d that end up happening? I’ve always been worried my former oneitis’ will come back.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
This was true for me. Happened back in 2003. I'm so glad it did. Problem with some guys is they get zeroed out, some multiple times, and STILL don't get it.
Hey as long as they eventually learn that’s all that counts. Sometimes you learn after one time so you know to try something different next time, maybe you get burned again, but you don’t keep repeating the same mistakes. I’ve gotten burned a lot by women, only twice in the same way but the other times stung just as bad. I could have the attitude that I’d spit in every woman’s face for my past experiences sometime, but then I’d also be lying if I said I didn’t have plenty of good experiences that made up for those bad ones.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
