i been in a relationship for 6 months now, i usually talk to my girl for hours on end on the net or on the phone, but should i just block her on msn and only call for 15 mins at a time to raise the interest levels back up again?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
how long to talk to girl for each day
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
id advise against blocking, because if she finds out you blocked her, she'll be real mad. So just be online less, or get a alternative SN. And if you feel like it call her less. It really depends on how things are between you too.Originally posted by WingS
i been in a relationship for 6 months now, i usually talk to my girl for hours on end on the net or on the phone, but should i just block her on msn and only call for 15 mins at a time to raise the interest levels back up again?
You better not make any drastic changes to what you're doing now all of a sudden because it will set off major red flags to her. Just gradually decrease the length and frequency of the online and phone conversation over time. That will give her a chance to get used to not talking as much without causing her to feel like something is wrong.Originally posted by WingS
i been in a relationship for 6 months now, i usually talk to my girl for hours on end on the net or on the phone, but should i just block her on msn and only call for 15 mins at a time to raise the interest levels back up again?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Unless you are living together, this should never happen.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
it actually said i been with her for 6 months, but we've been talking for nearly 2 years for 6-9 hours a day, but i feel that msn is causing more arguements then necessary...Originally posted by bfl
jesus, 6 hrs a day??!
EDIT: the truth is im pissed off because she showed me the profiles of her to ex's and they were thug wannabe's and i thought she was nothing like that and would steer clear, she told me she had no experience (sexually) with boys before me...but now i feel shes lied to me...what should i do?
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I've said this before and I'll say it again.
Instant Messaging is the lowest but quickest form of communication. Use it sparingly such as for "Hey babe, good night" or "I'm getting off work now, see you at Borders at 8 tonight" - it is not intended for long convos.. and if the convo starts getting long.. try to cut it off within half an hour.
Well really dunno what you can do. If you call it quits and say "I'm not goin to IM" anymore so you won't have long convos or arguments - she might think you're up to something.... to add a little more pessimism to your relationship.. I see a dark path in a dark tunnel ahead of you and the candlelight is very far away.
Instant Messaging is the lowest but quickest form of communication. Use it sparingly such as for "Hey babe, good night" or "I'm getting off work now, see you at Borders at 8 tonight" - it is not intended for long convos.. and if the convo starts getting long.. try to cut it off within half an hour.
Well really dunno what you can do. If you call it quits and say "I'm not goin to IM" anymore so you won't have long convos or arguments - she might think you're up to something.... to add a little more pessimism to your relationship.. I see a dark path in a dark tunnel ahead of you and the candlelight is very far away.