i been in a relationship for 6 months now, i usually talk to my girl for hours on end on the net or on the phone, but should i just block her on msn and only call for 15 mins at a time to raise the interest levels back up again?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
how long to talk to girl for each day
- Thread starter WingS
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
id advise against blocking, because if she finds out you blocked her, she'll be real mad. So just be online less, or get a alternative SN. And if you feel like it call her less. It really depends on how things are between you too.Originally posted by WingS
i been in a relationship for 6 months now, i usually talk to my girl for hours on end on the net or on the phone, but should i just block her on msn and only call for 15 mins at a time to raise the interest levels back up again?
You better not make any drastic changes to what you're doing now all of a sudden because it will set off major red flags to her. Just gradually decrease the length and frequency of the online and phone conversation over time. That will give her a chance to get used to not talking as much without causing her to feel like something is wrong.Originally posted by WingS
i been in a relationship for 6 months now, i usually talk to my girl for hours on end on the net or on the phone, but should i just block her on msn and only call for 15 mins at a time to raise the interest levels back up again?
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Unless you are living together, this should never happen.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
it actually said i been with her for 6 months, but we've been talking for nearly 2 years for 6-9 hours a day, but i feel that msn is causing more arguements then necessary...Originally posted by bfl
jesus, 6 hrs a day??!
EDIT: the truth is im pissed off because she showed me the profiles of her to ex's and they were thug wannabe's and i thought she was nothing like that and would steer clear, she told me she had no experience (sexually) with boys before me...but now i feel shes lied to me...what should i do?
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I've said this before and I'll say it again.
Instant Messaging is the lowest but quickest form of communication. Use it sparingly such as for "Hey babe, good night" or "I'm getting off work now, see you at Borders at 8 tonight" - it is not intended for long convos.. and if the convo starts getting long.. try to cut it off within half an hour.
Well really dunno what you can do. If you call it quits and say "I'm not goin to IM" anymore so you won't have long convos or arguments - she might think you're up to something.... to add a little more pessimism to your relationship.. I see a dark path in a dark tunnel ahead of you and the candlelight is very far away.
Instant Messaging is the lowest but quickest form of communication. Use it sparingly such as for "Hey babe, good night" or "I'm getting off work now, see you at Borders at 8 tonight" - it is not intended for long convos.. and if the convo starts getting long.. try to cut it off within half an hour.
Well really dunno what you can do. If you call it quits and say "I'm not goin to IM" anymore so you won't have long convos or arguments - she might think you're up to something.... to add a little more pessimism to your relationship.. I see a dark path in a dark tunnel ahead of you and the candlelight is very far away.