"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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how long to call after first night of sex...

dirtycm

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what up all DJ's, been learning skills from all ya all out there. Quick question, I just slept with this girl last night for the first time and want to keep her in the rotation but not fall into her thinking she is my girlfriend yet.

Am I supposed to call her the next day or so to let her know I wasn't just out for the booty that night and make plans in the future, or let it sit for a bit and jsut call when interested again. I don't want to have her pissed off and feeling used, but don't want to seem over anxious or like and AFC fallin for her. She is an HB9 at least and has guys after her all the time. What is everyones thoughts about followup calls and dates and such.

Thanks all...dcm
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If you care for her... next day.

If you don't... whenever you feel like.
 

DeathDealer

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5 days MINIMUM.

You want to be a challenge and appear confident...

ahahhahaa,....
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I do hope your joking with this question. Of course it would be most polite if you called the next day to see how she is doing. After all she did share her body with you gent.
 

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Next day.
I got in trouble for not calling the next day. Makes the girls feel like they were used if you don't. If you wish to continue nailing her, make sure she has her silly validation. Some girls just want sex, but I would say that the majority will want the call.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I always call the next day.

If i don't call her the next day, i'm guaranteed never to get another fuc* from her.
 

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Next day, but don't specifically mention or hint at any "level" of relationship. Just say you had a good time that night so she feels appreciated, but do NOT bring up ANYTHING that would lead to the "so . . . where are we" question.

Alexi
 

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How do you guys know that you lost her specifically because you didn't call the next day??? I find it extremely hard to pinpoint one move as the basis of my failures. I'm not being argumentative. I truly want to know as I'm a unsure of this question myself. What I'm currently operating with is that sex is cool but not a bigger deal than anything else.
 

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I called the next day and banged the girl on 2 more separate occasions before i started to make some AFC type moves and she lost interest plus she still had some emotional baggage which made me lose interest...
 

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it depends on the hookup.. did you meet at a party and bring her back and fck her? have you known this girl and developed some sort of raport with her?

If you dont really know her dont call next day.. it was a one night stand.. maybe a week down the road hit her up for another..

If you do know the girl call the next day just to say you had fun and that the two of you will have to do it again sometime.. then get off the phone.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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AlwaysExcel

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Originally posted by sfalexi
Next day, but don't specifically mention or hint at any "level" of relationship. Just say you had a good time that night so she feels appreciated, but do NOT bring up ANYTHING that would lead to the "so . . . where are we" question.

Alexi
Wait a second, sfalexi aren't you the guy who recently popped his cherry with a hooker?? Are you basing your advice on this encounter?? Did you really call her back? :p
 

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Originally posted by MrHarris
I do hope your joking with this question. Of course it would be most polite if you called the next day to see how she is doing. After all she did share her body with you gent.
agreed. call her the next day to see how she is doing, having a good day at work, etc etc

then play it by ear

b
 

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Originally posted by AlwaysExcel
Wait a second, sfalexi aren't you the guy who recently popped his cherry with a hooker?? Are you basing your advice on this encounter?? Did you really call her back? :p

HAHAHHAHAHHA
 
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