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How long should I wait between the first date and the second date?

deslite333

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Ok, I had a great evening with this girl i met, elicited values, great kino and a kiss close. The only problem is, the only free day I have to meet her is tomorrow. Is that too close? I would have to wait another week before being able to meet her if I dont meet her tomorrow. Please reply fast.
 

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LADawg49

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One week is good enough time.. If anythin its better to see her only once a week for the first few months cause u dont wanna her to end up getting tired of you.
 

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no. you didnt understand my question. I was asking, if for example, if I had a date on Saturday, and it went well, can I do the second date on Sunday or will I come off as desperate? The reason for this question is my schedule is really busy during the weekdays and NO way am I changing my schedule for a girl I just met so the only time I can meet her is next saturday which is one week and I HATE waiting for dates. Whats your opinion?
 

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I think he answered your question, saying to wait the one week, and not make the next date for the day after the first.
 

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You know what guys, if you regularly lead full and eventful lives (sports, school, work, hanging out with your buds, dating other women), you wouldn't have this problem. You would go out with her when you would have a spot available. It may be a few days, it may be a couple of weeks, either way you will come off as a popular guy who has things to see and people to do, er... things to do and people to see.... :p
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yes guys let me tell you about this as well.

Every time I tried to get a second date right after the first one (like the next day), it really didn't work that way.

A girl needs time to adjust to a new guy, just as a guy needs time to adjust to a new girl.

One date a week seems to be golden for this. I really wouldn't push it too fast.

I can tell you right now I'm on the flip side of a coin. On my thread in the mature man column, I have a girl that went nuts over me on one meeting. The problem is I'm not interested in her.

If a girl I was mildly interested in did that, I'd feel the same way. A bit scared! LOL
 

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Originally posted by deslite333
Ok, I had a great evening with this girl i met, elicited values, great kino and a kiss close. The only problem is, the only free day I have to meet her is tomorrow. Is that too close? I would have to wait another week before being able to meet her if I dont meet her tomorrow. Please reply fast.

In situations like this I STILL wait about a week, never less than several days. I don't do an immediate next day SECOND date. From time to time I will do a next-day date after like the 5 or 6th date though.

Here's a tip if you decide to wait a week. Don't sit there with your thumbs up your ass. Give her a couple calls. In your situation I'd call on Monday then another call on Wednesday or Thursday.

Some guys will be like HELL NO you CAN'T EVER talk to a girl on the phone just to talk!!!!!!

Bullsh!t.

Get to know her as a person but of course don't become her therapist. And don't stay on the phone for 6 hours. 30 mins is good. 60mins at most. End the conversation first.
 

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Originally posted by Ricky
Yes guys let me tell you about this as well.

Every time I tried to get a second date right after the first one (like the next day), it really didn't work that way.

A girl needs time to adjust to a new guy, just as a guy needs time to adjust to a new girl.

One date a week seems to be golden for this. I really wouldn't push it too fast.

I can tell you right now I'm on the flip side of a coin. On my thread in the mature man column, I have a girl that went nuts over me on one meeting. The problem is I'm not interested in her.

If a girl I was mildly interested in did that, I'd feel the same way. A bit scared! LOL
I agree whole heartedly with this. Occasionally they can grow on you. I just met (in person) one woman that I met on Match.com. Cute pic but I didn't feel the chemistry when we met. We had coffee and talked for a couple of hours. I know, I know, the first meeting shouldn't be that long but the conversation was good, the kino was really good, she had already given me her phone number before we even met without me asking for it, so it was obvious that her IL was high. So after a couple of hours of having a good time together AND her asking to see me again, I said what the h3ll, she's beginning to grow on me. ;)
 
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