"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How long should I tan for?

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Didn't really wanna piggy back this.

But i wanna know how long to tan. I get a lot of direct sunlight (new mexico) and I don't really wanna overdo it. I think i'm just gonna throw on some spf 15 and sit out there for 30 front and 30 back. Is that to long or should i go longer?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Depends on your skin tone. I think it's best to gradually get tan over a period of days. This way you won't end up burning. So 30 minutes front and 30 back would probably be best.
 

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it depends too on how strong the sun is that day or where you live is?

if the sun is really strong and youre very white with 15 mins you will burn.... like lets say for example in houston

the other day i was playing basketball outside without shirt and with about 30 mins i got red...i didnt burn, bc im really tan but i was close to
 

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No SPF! Why is this so complicated??

You put on sunblock to BLOCK the sun!

The only reason why you'd want sunblock on is if you're going to be out in the sun for a long time anyway. If you're just going to lay out to tan, put no SPF on and lay out for 10 minutes (give or take depending on your skin type - hard with no picture). The next day, depending on how your skin reacted the first day, lay out a little more or less. Repeat.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It's best to start out small and build yourself up. Say 20 minutes the first time you try it, and see if you redden up. If not, lay out for 30 the next day... if you're still good, try 40. So on and so forth. If you try overdoing it and lay out too long the first day, you're going to burn and have to wait for the peeling to stop before trying it again...

Slow & steady wins the race...
 

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Yep, The Bishop is right. You need to take it steady, but once you build a light foundation tan then you'll find that you can spend longer in the sun and your skin reacts much better.

Also, moisturize your skin when you come in from the sun as this helps prevent peeling, dryness and premature ageing.
 

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Spending even 30 minutes in the sun will burn and could cause more skin damage than spending all day in the sun. That was the latest research I heard. For example, those who take 30 minute lunch breaks and sit in the sun for their break are more prone to skin cancer than those who work in the sun all day.

If your in Australia, WATCH OUT. Australia has the highest rate of skin cancer per capita than any other country in the world!
 

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CLOONY, did you mean all day in the sun with sunblock? What you say makes no sense :p
 

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Originally posted by Shiftkey
CLOONY, did you mean all day in the sun with sunblock? What you say makes no sense :p
What I said makes perfect sense. U just gotta learn to read.......

People who spend all day in the sun, apparently their skin becomes resilient to the sun and means their chances of getting skin cancer drop.

People who only expose themselves to the sun for say, one 30 minute block a day, u wont burn (as in go red), but your skin will be damaged and will give u a higher chance of getting skin cancer.

I am simply stating the latest research findings I have heard. I am no scientist and dont claim to be.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Oh I have to learn to read? I guess that's the same place they teach you how to spell the word "you" huh?

Maybe you should've made it more clear WHY it is that people who spend all day in the sun are at less risk for cancer, which you did in your second reply - the built up resistance to the sun (a tan) does this. Very interesting.
 

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Originally posted by CLOONEY
What I said makes perfect sense. U just gotta learn to read.......

People who spend all day in the sun, apparently their skin becomes resilient to the sun and means their chances of getting skin cancer drop.

People who only expose themselves to the sun for say, one 30 minute block a day, u wont burn (as in go red), but your skin will be damaged and will give u a higher chance of getting skin cancer.

I am simply stating the latest research findings I have heard. I am no scientist and dont claim to be.
Its not that he needs to learn to read, but poor baby shiftkey likes things to be spoonfed to him because he doesnt like to think about what someone says.
 

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It's not my fault that some people don't write clearly.

He said people who spend all day in the sun are at less risk for cancer. He said nothing about those people already having a tan. The way it was written, it sounded like it's bad for the average person to go into the sun for 30 minutes, but if that person stayed past 30 minutes it's magically good for him.
 

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Originally posted by Shiftkey
It's not my fault that some people don't write clearly.

He said people who spend all day in the sun are at less risk for cancer. He said nothing about those people already having a tan. The way it was written, it sounded like it's bad for the average person to go into the sun for 30 minutes, but if that person stayed past 30 minutes it's magically good for him.
lol, I am not going to argue such a stupid topic. However Shift, u sure seem to have made your enemies around here.

As for writing clearly, others seem to have understood it.........but I can see your point.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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As for writing clearly, others seem to have understood it.........but I can see your point.
THANK YOU! Geez, I don't know why I was getting attacked for this.

Just because I say something doesn't make sense to me, doesn't mean I'm flaming you.
 
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