"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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RU18QT?

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Girl I've seen a few times flaked on me the other day. I wouldn't have cared if she would have call and canceled but she decided to ignore my call 20mins before we were supposed to get together. She's usually always answers my calls and sticks to plans with me. I am faily positive when she flaked she was with another guy who's just a complete ******* so I have competition. The next morning she txted me saying she was sorry and that she would make it up to me. I ignored her txt... she sent me a picture txt later that night but it didnt work and i didnt bother responding. She's called me 2 times today that I have ignored both times.

How long would you wait before picking up one of her calls?? I think after the weekend maybe.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DUDE, who cares if theres was another guy........pick up the phone ask her how she is going to make it up to you.

then get her naked............sheesh so many guys worry what if she flakes........GO TO THE NEXT CHIC........always have a back up plan dude.

WHY.......cause that way you treat her like just another vagina......thats all she is. She was busy.......who cares, another guy got the goods before you.......who cares........so u had to wait 1 whole day.......AWWWWW poor baby.

GET a few chics and date em all.........SHE ALREADY SAID SHE WOULD MAKE IT UP TO YOU...........take full advantage of her GENEROUS OFFER.

FORGET THE NOT ANSWERING BS GAMES, NEXTING BS, active diss-interest routines and BANG HER THEN LOSE HER.........then watch her beg to be with you. But do this after you bang her.........not before.

Dont think.........JUST DO IT.......way too much complexity in these forums. Gotta luv getting advice from guys that know all the answers yet never bang multiple chics.
 

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COD said:
DUDE, who cares if theres was another guy........pick up the phone ask her how she is going to make it up to you.

then get her naked............sheesh so many guys worry what if she flakes........GO TO THE NEXT CHIC........always have a back up plan dude.

WHY.......cause that way you treat her like just another vagina......thats all she is. She was busy.......who cares, another guy got the goods before you.......who cares........so u had to wait 1 whole day.......AWWWWW poor baby.

GET a few chics and date em all.........SHE ALREADY SAID SHE WOULD MAKE IT UP TO YOU...........take full advantage of her GENEROUS OFFER.

FORGET THE NOT ANSWERING BS GAMES, NEXTING BS, active diss-interest routines and BANG HER THEN LOSE HER.........then watch her beg to be with you. But do this after you bang her.........not before.

Dont think.........JUST DO IT.......way too much complexity in these forums. Gotta luv getting advice from guys that know all the answers yet never bang multiple chics.
yet you have to laugh when you see responses like this...

anyways, its like fishing, dont wait to set the line too long or she'll spit the bait out, one day of ignoring is enough, especially when she tries to contact you frantically like she did... go back in and ask for a favor! lol
 

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Danger said:
The right thing to do is take her next call, and tell her flat out to NEVER flake on you again. ...
idk if i would even do this, it might make you look like an a$$hole, someone whos anger might have a little problem. Shes not stupid, she got the hint...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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COD said:
DUDE, who cares if theres was another guy........pick up the phone ask her how she is going to make it up to you.

then get her naked............sheesh so many guys worry what if she flakes........GO TO THE NEXT CHIC........always have a back up plan dude.

WHY.......cause that way you treat her like just another vagina......thats all she is. She was busy.......who cares, another guy got the goods before you.......who cares........so u had to wait 1 whole day.......AWWWWW poor baby.

GET a few chics and date em all.........SHE ALREADY SAID SHE WOULD MAKE IT UP TO YOU...........take full advantage of her GENEROUS OFFER.

FORGET THE NOT ANSWERING BS GAMES, NEXTING BS, active diss-interest routines and BANG HER THEN LOSE HER.........then watch her beg to be with you. But do this after you bang her.........not before.

Dont think.........JUST DO IT.......way too much complexity in these forums. Gotta luv getting advice from guys that know all the answers yet never bang multiple chics.
Sometimes i wonder if these people ever think on their own or just recite what the bible says. Ignoring her twice isn't going to make her forget about what an undesirable wuss you are. Nailing her friend is. I'm with you dude. Nail her, nail her friend, nail another chick... keep on walking.
 

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Danger said:
I would say it's ok and she knows she deserves it. You don't have to yell when you say it, just be serious.

You would be surprised how many women I've had to deal with in this kind of manner and it never pushed any of them away.
deserves it? im still a little skeptical on the whole thing, still seems standoff-ish. but if your saying it works im going to try it! no harm no foul? lol
 

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Well she called again... I was out for a beer with a buddy and was in the middle of a story when she called and ignored it again. I do think she's got the point now!

my next question is now.. do i pick up the phone and call her or do i wait for another call attempt? I am thinking she's already done enough to get ahold of me and I should call her and see what she's going to do for me to make things better.
 

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RU18QT? said:
Girl I've seen a few times flaked on me the other day. I wouldn't have cared if she would have call and canceled but she decided to ignore my call 20mins before we were supposed to get together. She's usually always answers my calls and sticks to plans with me. I am faily positive when she flaked she was with another guy who's just a complete ******* so I have competition. The next morning she txted me saying she was sorry and that she would make it up to me. I ignored her txt... she sent me a picture txt later that night but it didnt work and i didnt bother responding. She's called me 2 times today that I have ignored both times.

How long would you wait before picking up one of her calls?? I think after the weekend maybe.
Wow man, are you looking to drive yourself crazy or what? This girl is playing head games like a mutha. The thing about ganji is that it can work in certain situations but if the girl comes back to you she's usually just looking for the validation to see if you'll answer her phone call/text message whatever. Once you do, she'll be back to her antics playing you for a fool. It's not worth it in the long run and you should just look for other girls. If you really want to get with this girl, play on a female's worst emotion, jealousy. Get another girl and indirectly let her know about it. She'll be on you like flies on shyt. Not what you wanted to hear? Okay, carry own with the games.
 

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RU18QT? said:
my next question is now.. do i pick up the phone and call her or do i wait for another call attempt? I am thinking she's already done enough to get ahold of me and I should call her and see what she's going to do for me to make things better.

You have already waited too long. I would have ignored the first text for about 10 hours and then texted back or definitely picked up at least the 2nd call. Your playing way too many games and she's probably done with you.

If a girl ignored two of my texts and two phone calls after I said sorry, I would think she was sleeping with Brad while I was phoning, and probably wouldn't talk to her for at least a month.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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