how long or how many times do you let a girl give you the cold shoulder

[whosthat]

example met a chick at school, went on a coffee date with a girl, date went well, kissed a bit at the end, called her next day, she text back, tried to set something up to meet up again at school to chat for a a little while after class, she said ya but that day i called and no pick up, so kinda of a stand up, i text next day asking if she still wanted to meet up again, she texted back apoligizeing she didnt feel good that day and went to sleep but said we could me up again this weekend and she would let me know when, so felt i would leave it to her for the next communication approach, she text back a week later saying was up, surprised i was at that, i text back said not much how are you , she text back good, so i decide to ask her again if she wanted to meet up agin, and no text back i felt like that was some kind of joke or closure for her, what do you think? do you think i should ahve been more persistant the week following when she said she would let me know when we could meet again?

but i think my question is if i kept talking to her and trying to set something up and she kept just saying she was busy at that time or tired ect. how long or how many attempts to you let it go, even thoe she still talking to you, but your not getting another meet up set up, i feel like some girls could play you along for a ride for weeks to see how long you may persist just for kicks

 

[Iceberg]

do you think i should ahve been more persistant the week following when she said she would let me know when we could meet again?

No. I don't.

but i think my question is if i kept talking to her and trying to set something up and she kept just saying she was busy at that time or tired ect. how long or how many attempts to you let it go, even thoe she still talking to you

How many attempts? 2. Maybe 3, if I'm bored.

i feel like some girls could play you along for a ride for weeks to see how long you may persist just for kicks

Yes they can. I've had girls try to do the same to me. Try to turn me into their "text buddy". It's like, they flake on a date, so you're like "Cool. I'll just move on." Then, they end up calling/texting, and you're like "Wait. Maybe she really DOES want to bone." And then, again, nothing happens.

Best thing to do is walk away. If she wants you, she can step up her game and set REAL plans to hang out. Or she can go find someone else to text her just to chat.

 

[whosthat]

hey thanks man, me and you think alike then, i wanted to just get a second opinion on that, i felt i had made the wright decision there.

 

[tafakna]

example met a chick at school, went on a coffee date with a girl, date went well, kissed a bit at the end, called her next day, she text back, tried to set something up to meet up again at school to chat for a a little while after class, she said ya but that day i called and no pick up, so kinda of a stand up, i text next day asking if she still wanted to meet up again, she texted back apoligizeing she didnt feel good that day and went to sleep but said we could me up again this weekend and she would let me know when, so felt i would leave it to her for the next communication approach, she text back a week later saying was up, surprised i was at that, i text back said not much how are you , she text back good, so i decide to ask her again if she wanted to meet up agin, and no text back i felt like that was some kind of joke or closure for her, what do you think? do you think i should ahve been more persistant the week following when she said she would let me know when we could meet again?

The problem is that you were too persistent, not that you should've been even more.

If you want to rely on texting try using the same tactics that women use. Stop replying in the middle of a conversation, and send another text a couple of days later (and don't explain yourself, keep them guessing why you disappeared). Always take longer than she does to reply, etc... Never reply to late night texts unless you've already nailed the girl, as it's always a test...

I've had good success with texting over the years...

But like Iceberg said you don't want to become her text buddy, so remain unpredictable and fun. Never let her feel like she will get a prompt answer.

 

[cola]

I think when she texted you, you should have called her on her flaking. . Should have said "i got **** to do and dont have time for games" .. You cant be so available and so dependant on when she has time. Dont let them get away with flaking or they keep doing it, speak on it