"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How long of a wait is too long after getting the number

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I see the question of how soon should one call being asked all the time, but never seen the "when is it been too long" side of the coin.

The reason I am asking is becuase I got a few numbers last week, but was unable to follow up due to a busy schedule; its been a week for one and little more than a week for 2 more.

What do you guys say; is there a time frame after which its a dead number or is it still worth the shot after 6-10 days?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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There is no dead time like that, Since its only a week or so. You are still good
You can reinitiate by telling who you are!
 

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Wait 8 weeks and text her "What's crackin."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a9rboYn0qcE

But really, I'd rather not wait 2 weeks to talk to a new chick. But what can you do? If you were in a less-busy place in life, you'd contact her in 2 or 3 days. But you're not. So if she can't handle that, then f**k it.

In summary: 2 weeks CAN be too long. 1 week isnt. But if the girl is seriously interested, then she'll still be excited about the prospect of getting with you.
 

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I don't think either have too much of IL since one I met at a bar, one was a Starbucks bartista who gave me her # on the sleeve of the cup after a 2 min conversation (without me asking), and another I met months ago and just saw her again and got her number.

Either way ill contact them all; I really don't care about length of time but since I see a lot of questions regarding time tables, I figured Ill ask you guys on opinions regarding waiting too long.

You confirmed my gut feeling; thanks!
 

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anyone else find teh word barista pretentious as hell? u make coffee, ur job is called coffee maker *****.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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