How long does it take?

[Avn_0903]

I'm friend w/ this girl and she's going abroad to Japan. We won't see each other for about 5 months. Do u think 5 months of not seeing each other, not contacting each other r adequate for getting out of the friendzone?

 

[Hidden-Hand]

I'm friend w/ this girl and she's going abroad to Japan. We won't see each other for about 5 months. Do u think 5 months of not seeing each other, not contacting each other r adequate for getting out of the friendzone?

You have problems if you think being her friend is wrong. Seriously, what is wrong with being her friend? Is she using you or something?

 

[Igetit!]

I'm friend w/ this girl and she's going abroad to Japan. We won't see each other for about 5 months. Do u think 5 months of not seeing each other, not contacting each other r adequate for getting out of the friendzone?

I say no,but it really depends on how long you've known the girl.


The theory is if you can go no contact long enough for her to FORGET ABOUT THE "OLD" YOU,then you can re-approach her,and avoid doing whatever it was that caused you to fall into the friendzone in the first place.


And that's HARD to do.


There are too many "if" that have to fall into place to get out of the friendzone.



Her forgetting the "old you" is just one thing that has to happen. YOU will also have to have worked on yourself to understand where you went wrong and what it was about yourself that made her friendzone you.



Otherwise,even if she didn't remember you when she returned and you could re-apporach her,you'd just make the same mistake all over again a second time.


Frankly,I do not believe there is a way out of the friendzone. That's just me.




The longer you've known her,the greater the chance you'll NEVER DATE HER.