"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm friend w/ this girl and she's going abroad to Japan. We won't see each other for about 5 months. Do u think 5 months of not seeing each other, not contacting each other r adequate for getting out of the friendzone?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Avn_0903 said:
I'm friend w/ this girl and she's going abroad to Japan. We won't see each other for about 5 months. Do u think 5 months of not seeing each other, not contacting each other r adequate for getting out of the friendzone?
You have problems if you think being her friend is wrong. Seriously, what is wrong with being her friend? Is she using you or something?
 

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Avn_0903 said:
I'm friend w/ this girl and she's going abroad to Japan. We won't see each other for about 5 months. Do u think 5 months of not seeing each other, not contacting each other r adequate for getting out of the friendzone?
I say no,but it really depends on how long you've known the girl.


The theory is if you can go no contact long enough for her to FORGET ABOUT THE "OLD" YOU,then you can re-approach her,and avoid doing whatever it was that caused you to fall into the friendzone in the first place.


And that's HARD to do.


There are too many "if" that have to fall into place to get out of the friendzone.



Her forgetting the "old you" is just one thing that has to happen. YOU will also have to have worked on yourself to understand where you went wrong and what it was about yourself that made her friendzone you.



Otherwise,even if she didn't remember you when she returned and you could re-apporach her,you'd just make the same mistake all over again a second time.


Frankly,I do not believe there is a way out of the friendzone. That's just me.




The longer you've known her,the greater the chance you'll NEVER DATE HER.
 
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