"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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how long do you wait before you follow up a semi counter offer?

big weezy

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for instance if i contact a HB to meet up this week and she says she's going abroad till sunday so we'll have to postpone it to the week after.

i understand if a HB has high IL she'll offer you a specific day well in advance..

i just text back 'ok'

now Sunday has passed, should i really wait till she contacts me about that meet up and if she doesn't when is the best time to do so..? thurs or fri?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Text her back something that she has to elaborate on like "how was your trip"?

Get a back-and-forth going. Then don't say anything for a day, call her up and ask her for a specific day. If she turns you down without a specific reschedule day, it's probably over.
 

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I hate those semi-counteroffers. I treat them as no counteroffer. See what she does after some radio silence; the true divider of interest/non-interest.
 

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agreed.

If the IL is truly there, they will be anxious to meet asap.
 

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VladPatton said:
I hate those semi-counteroffers. I treat them as no counteroffer. See what she does after some radio silence; the true divider of interest/non-interest.
yeah that was what i was planning to do.. f sake.. my afc keeps returning. i prob would have done if i got some other numbers this weekend. bit of a rut pre valentines. anyway lesson learned
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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