"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How long do IL of girls last?

BlackDragon

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Yesturday I notice a girl in my class might have some interst in me. When I was waiting for class this girl gave me a really big smile and looked at me longer than usual. When I think about it now, she has been showing some signs the pass weeks when I flirt with her. I wasn't in too much of a good mood that day so I didnt go for her number. I might not see her till next week, and I was just wonding how long would high IL last?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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squirrels

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Originally posted by BlackDragon
Yesturday I notice a girl in my class might have some interst in me. When I was waiting for class this girl gave me a really big smile and looked at me longer than usual. When I think about it now, she has been showing some signs the pass weeks when I flirt with her. I wasn't in too much of a good mood that day so I didnt go for her number. I might not see her till next week, and I was just wonding how long would high IL last?
It depends. But if you haven't even made contact yet, she's not gonna wait forever.
 

The Bad Ass Canadian

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Never knew IL had a set expiry date...lol

It all depends, i guess. If you have your sh!t together, you can hold a girls interst for quite some time, i think. But if you mess up and make some stupid moves you can lose her IL right away.

If you want her, then don't wait too long.

Make your move.
 

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There is no exact science to this. Just to give an example... A girl I met at a party and got the nr of her friend one week later, sent some SMS but I got bored and we lost contact. I contacted her 4 MONTHS later with ONE SMS and the day after she invited me over for a massage, wine and ****.... = SEX.. Go figure.
 
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