I concur...*Removes hand from "Delete Thread Button."*Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So DJism is reduced to keeping track of things like this.
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If I do that...There will be a few hundred threads on this...
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I concur...*Removes hand from "Delete Thread Button."*Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So DJism is reduced to keeping track of things like this.
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Djism is about becoming to best you can be. If not masturbating makes that happen then good for you.Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So DJism is reduced to keeping track of things like this.
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And if the only thing that is holding you back from being the best that you can be is your propensity to masturbate, you are a better man than I. I must be wasting my time trying to build a real estate empire, completing my PhD and becoming irresistible to women. If I only had to worry about not masturbating to become the best that I can be, my life would suddenly have purpose.Originally posted by Vincent
Djism is about becoming to best you can be. If not masturbating makes that happen then good for you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your such a brag man, so pathetic! I bet your one of them guys who approches like this.Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
And if the only thing that is holding you back from being the best that you can be is your propensity to masturbate, you are a better man than I. I must be wasting my time trying to build a real estate empire, completing my PhD and becoming irresistible to women. If I only had to worry about not masturbating to become the best that I can be, my life would suddenly have purpose.
Any of you guys remember the Army's old catch phrase? What if they felt the same way as this guy? Think about it:
"Be, all that you can be (don't masturbate) in the Arrrrrrrrmy!"![]()
Just bored and wanted to get a rise out of people. It's too easy...Originally posted by S0LID
Just kidding man. If you don't like the thread what you getting involved for?
I must be wasting my time trying to build a real estate empire, completing my PhD and becoming irresistible to women.
Bored on that and reading masturbation threads on ss.com instead ehJust bored and wanted to get a rise out of people. It's too easy...
Yep. Sad, isn't it. I was actually compelled to post in this thread just because it seemed to be one of the most active. I would have thought the most active would be about approaching or qualifying women. But nope, one of the most active threads is about self gratification. Well, I guess we should blame this on Bush too....Originally posted by Hot Ice
Bored on that and reading masturbation threads on ss.com instead eh![]()
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
there are lots of more useful ways to determine how disciplined you are... studyin, workin out, readin, learnin new languages, takin up a sport...Originally posted by S0LID
It shows how disciplined you are.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.