How long can you bang a girl without catching feelings?

[soulforge]

For me it depends on the physical attraction level I have for her & if we connect on some level.

If she is attractive & we seem to connect, more often than not I tend to begin to like the girl.. Which is often problematic, if she comes with a bunch of red flags.

If she is attractive, but I don't like her personality too much, or the red flags are too many, I can bang her for a good period of time without developing an attachment.

All that being said.. I still believe it's a risky venture having sex with females who are not right for you, or don't make for LTR material. The risk of catching feels for her will always be present if you keep her around for too long.

It should be a matter of catch and release.

 

[SW15]

For me it depends on the physical attraction level I have for her & if we connect on some level.

That's the same for me.

I think most men will catch feelings somewhat quickly.

The men with the most abundance will catch feelings the slowest.

 

[soulforge]

That's the same for me.

I think most men will catch feelings somewhat quickly.

The men with the most abundance will catch feelings the slowest.

Yeh totally.

If you're dealing with only one plate at a time, and she is attractive.. She might even be bad for you in the long run, however lack of abundance will lead to attachment & eventually a break up.

 

[Solomon]

It depends on how attractive she is, how interested she is (texting a lot, cooking, even had some girls clean my place for me) how affectionate she is, love a girl that speaks through actions backing up her words

 

[Barrister]

In my experience, it is very difficult to not develop some level of feelings for a woman if she is your only source of sex at any given time. If you’re banging only one your brain is going to subconsciously begin associating her with the dopamine release and you are going to get more attached. Bonus points to this process if she is highly attractive as others have said.

If you want to avoid this, be sure you are banging more than one at any given time.

 

[jhonny9546]

Is that the same for women too?

 

[Gamisch]

For me it depends on the physical attraction level I have for her & if we connect on some level.

If she is attractive & we seem to connect, more often than not I tend to begin to like the girl.. Which is often problematic, if she comes with a bunch of red flags.

If she is attractive, but I don't like her personality too much, or the red flags are too many, I can bang her for a good period of time without developing an attachment.

All that being said.. I still believe it's a risky venture having sex with females who are not right for you, or don't make for LTR material. The risk of catching feels for her will always be present if you keep her around for too long.

It should be a matter of catch and release.

Let's not forget this dynamic;

Even IF you're not highly attracted to her (aka just banging her ) she will immediately feel what's going on and FORCE you to commit one way or another.

She'll male you commit verbally, and if you are a man of honour this will already bring friction when you have to lie here and there.

You think imma keep this not too hot but yet decent p00sy for the time being ,she can give you a checkmate by demanding simple shyte like going out, making pictures ect.

I had such women also doing other shyte like being my personal chauffeur when I had no car, willing to do whatever I ask to make money....making me food, buying me clothes ect. All "voluntary ".

 

[BPH]

The women I bang I generally like.

Not to the point where I consider a relationship, but if she's not pressuring me into something more serious and I also enjoy her as a person, then it can last for quite some time.

Usually, if a casual FWB situation ends it's because the girl wants something more serious, she stopped putting in effort to look nice and I lost interest, she got into a relationship, I didn't like being around her pre/post-sex, or she wasn't very good in bed.

Right now I have a FWB that I've been hooking up with since August. We both know what it is, aren't interested in anything serious, and enjoy each other's company. She doesn't impose on me, is very sweet and appreciative when I visit, and the sex is fantastic.

I could see this going on for quite some time unless I moved away or something.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I think most people build stronger connections after the second time, especially when the nerves from the first encounter are gone, and you both know you’re meeting just to ****. People tend to form connections when they anticipate the date in advance, and after both of you orgasm, when you discuss deeper, more intimate topics. Your level of investment also plays a role—things like the gifts you bought, how much effort you put in, how often you initiate conversations—these factors can all accelerate the development of feelings for the other person.

That said, this is just bro science. All of this may just be influence by the scarcity spectrum.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Define what is meant by "catch feelings".

Is this synomous with falling in love?

 

[sevbucmash]

I think oneitis is catching feelings.
It's part of physiology though, without this process, mating would lose its meaning.

 

[sevbucmash]

OP, if we talking about girl with two kids, bunch of tats, limited interest in you, and whole bunch of criminal friends, which wants a relationship with me... I could bang her for ever without catching oneitis. But only with protection.

 

[BaronOfHair]

"How long can you bang a girl without catching feelings?"

So long as he scores reasonably-extraordinairly high on Hare's checklist https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychopathy_Checklist A fella can spend his entire existence unperturbed by emotional attachment

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Always depends on how much you like her.

 

[soulforge]

I think oneitis is catching feelings.
It's part of physiology though, without this process, mating would lose its meaning.

Yeh I totally get this, but often we smash or have sex with girls, whom come with red flags and we know they ain't good for us.

I'm just saying, having sex with a girl on a regular basis over a longer period of time, will inevitably lead to some kinda attachment.

I'm pretty sure there are tons of cases where a hook up lead to FWB, the FWB lead to a relationship.. Then **** becomes toxic, because attachment.

 

[sevbucmash]

Girl with two kids, bunch of tats, and bunch of criminal bad boy "friends" will be a player. She knows how to push pull. She'll pull just enough and then push. You've been played.

Thing that she miscalculated your short fuse.

Anyway, you dodged a bullet with this one.

 

[soulforge]

Girl with two kids, bunch of tats, and bunch of criminal bad boy "friends" will be a player. She knows how to push pull. She'll pull just enough and then push. You've been played.

Thing that she miscalculated your short fuse.

Anyway, you dodged a bullet with this one.

Facts.. I always knew she was a hoe.. She love bombed the hell out of me, however I knew deep inside she isn't a quality girl.. I played along with it. The moment she started acting up, I immediately ghosted her.

When they are heavily tattooed, have a bunch of male friends, and they associate with unsavoury/criminal characters, you know she's for the streets.

She sent me paragraphs of text messages since I walked away.. I just ignore and delete lol..

It's like the wild wild west outhere with these modern females lol

 

[Bingo-Player]

Sex is just one piece of the compatibility Puzzle imo I find it difficult to connect with a woman unless she's stimulating a lot of areas such as intellect and shared interests

Theres a girl I have been banging since just before christmas the sex is pretty good but she's very boring otherwise I am now at the stage where I'm about ready to break it off just because she keeps asking for dates and we have virtually nothing to talk about on them becuase we view the world so differently

I can't really catch feelings for her when aside from sex theres nothing to catch

But are people out there catching feelings for people they have next to nothing in common with other than a bed ...... you bet they are

Ultimately it all comes down to mindset

 

[plumber]

oxytocin. if your system produces this as expected then it will happen. some have burned out endocrine systems or parts of. so it doesn't happen. its a biology thing... its complicated and can get screwed up, leaving a person unable or much lesser to feel such things.

 

[CornbreadFed]

It depends…certain type of girls I just catch feelings for regardless of if I’m in spinning plates or not. It’s always the bubbly, adventurous type women for me