How Long Before you Give Up?

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Yachtie

Don Juan

Dec 24, 2010

do you know her friends? she might be the type of girl who only uses text/bbm and receives calls from friends, including females. my girl is the same way in that she rarely initiates contact unless i've given her no contact or something -- as it turns out, she rarely initiates contact with her regular female friends too. i think this developed over several years of being the object of attention in school.

if that's the case for your girl, i wonder if that "take from a taker" theory would work here too?

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.