How Long Before you Give Up?

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Yachtie

Don Juan

Dec 24, 2010

do you know her friends? she might be the type of girl who only uses text/bbm and receives calls from friends, including females. my girl is the same way in that she rarely initiates contact unless i've given her no contact or something -- as it turns out, she rarely initiates contact with her regular female friends too. i think this developed over several years of being the object of attention in school.

if that's the case for your girl, i wonder if that "take from a taker" theory would work here too?

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.