"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How late is too late to call/text a girl after getting her number?

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After getting a girls number what is the longest you can take to call her or text her? all opinions are appreciated.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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In my opionion the best thing to do would be is:When you and your friends are gonna hang out or something or gonna do something fun text/call her and ask if she wants to come
 

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I don't follow the 3 day BS or making them wait to long. I call the next day and they actually pick up because their interest is still high, when I try the 3 day BS they lose interest, then they don't answer because they also know this BS game and stupid rules that some "expert" wrote in a magazine and turn it on you to spite you. So call em even if a couple hours later. This "game" is not a science so don't try and follow foolish rules, it's an art an how you play it with you're own style.
 

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I like Ztr1der's input so far,
1. Call/text her when your and friendsare gonna do something fun.
 

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Why would you invite a girl out with your friends? :confused:

But I dont understand the rushing.

'omg im so interested in you that i must contact you within 24 hours or else you will forget me and i really really dont want to take that risk please go out with me'.

Wait a few days, call them when you feel like it. Why are you so insecure that they will lose interest?

but yes play it with your own style.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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handle

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Why not try a whole bunch of possibilities and see which ones work for you. Some guys do great calling back early, others not so much.
 

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ItsTheAttitude said:
Normally after getting a number I'll call after 2 days. Not that i plan to, but i actually have stuff to do outside of talking to women, and you should too.
I appreciate your input but i never said i didn't have anything to do outside of talking to women. I live my life and women are just a part of it, i never shift course or go out of my way for them. I was just curious to know how different guys handled the calling/texting of women after getting digits. Pure curiosity but thx
 

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There's no set rule of how many days you should wait. It's not like every girlis is made exactly the same, lol. Because you're a busy guy, and have things to do, how about you call her whenever you have the time.
 

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There is no set time. Call whenever you feel like it. I've called a couple of my ex gf's as late as a week later, and we turned out ok enough to date

I also called one girl the day after. nothing wrong and she's still interested.

Just call when you have time. Girls and dating is about having fun, not about being perfect. as long as you don't come off as a needy clinging baby then you should be straight to call whenever you want
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I call whenever I feel. If she's busy or can't talk then i try again later.

The wait a couple days rule is Sh1t. Call when you have time to talk.

I actually read somewhere that the 3 days rule is BS because in the beginning you should work getting to know the girl and making a move. You might think it makes you seem all important and "Scarce" if you wait a couple days to call, but she's really not gonna care about how scarce or busy a guy is if she barely knows him. She won't worry about a man too much that she just met.

and no she won't be wondering why you haven't called. If she's an attractive woman then she has a lot of options anyway, that's why you have to move.

That of course is their opinion. But I agree with it

Call whenever you want. Dating is not some complex Medical Procedure
 

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i donno i norm text the next day with "hey was good to meet ya, we should totally do something sometime, talk soon" then i gage on the reply on whether or not we should actully do something
 

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I won't try to set up a date on the first text i send her. Flirt with her over a good few texts, gauge her interest level, then carry it on to a phone conversation. I'd make sure we've got a decent amount of attraction and rapport going, before i ask her which day she's free to go out.
 
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