"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How Important is the "****y" part of C&F?

McKindley

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I see lots of posts on C&F on these forums. The question I have is, how important is the ****y part of C&F?

I ask because (this is not aimed towards anyone personally who has posted on this) most of the guys talk about C&F give examples that aren't funny.

Isn't "funny" the most important part of the equation? Cause without it you're just a jerk.

Would just "funny" by itself be a bad idea? I mean, if you have to make C&F comments trying to make her qualify that doesn't really appear to me as confident, as much as false confidence.

Furthermore, I've never believed that C&F is a good idea for most people. It will come out forced and awkward with most people (which is why most of the posts I see on the issue aren't funny.)

If you're funny, be funny. If you aren't funny, be something else. I don't feel that this is the type of technique that is universal in scope. Some guys can make it work fine, some can't.

There are plenty of other good personal qualities that you undoubtably have, so if you're not funny, don't try to make yourself funny.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Seizing The Day

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A good point.

Besides, it goes right to the heart of a point I'm always trying to drive home with men here......

If she finds you physically attractive, there is very little that you can say or do wrong, at least initially.....

If she finds you physically unattractive, there is very little, if anything, you can say or do right........
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Suggestion: Replace "****y" with "confident" and you shouldn't have any problems.
 

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Seizing the Day:

Its amazing how important such a simple statement like that is.
 

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Yes, if you are simply funny it is still good.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Kidd
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Yes, if you are simply funny it is still good.
You mean funny like Carrot Top? Wierd Al? Rodney Dangerfield (RIP)? Galleger? Steven Right? Get my point?
 
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