"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How Important is the "****y" part of C&F?

McKindley

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I see lots of posts on C&F on these forums. The question I have is, how important is the ****y part of C&F?

I ask because (this is not aimed towards anyone personally who has posted on this) most of the guys talk about C&F give examples that aren't funny.

Isn't "funny" the most important part of the equation? Cause without it you're just a jerk.

Would just "funny" by itself be a bad idea? I mean, if you have to make C&F comments trying to make her qualify that doesn't really appear to me as confident, as much as false confidence.

Furthermore, I've never believed that C&F is a good idea for most people. It will come out forced and awkward with most people (which is why most of the posts I see on the issue aren't funny.)

If you're funny, be funny. If you aren't funny, be something else. I don't feel that this is the type of technique that is universal in scope. Some guys can make it work fine, some can't.

There are plenty of other good personal qualities that you undoubtably have, so if you're not funny, don't try to make yourself funny.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Seizing The Day

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A good point.

Besides, it goes right to the heart of a point I'm always trying to drive home with men here......

If she finds you physically attractive, there is very little that you can say or do wrong, at least initially.....

If she finds you physically unattractive, there is very little, if anything, you can say or do right........
 

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Suggestion: Replace "****y" with "confident" and you shouldn't have any problems.
 

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Seizing the Day:

Its amazing how important such a simple statement like that is.
 

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Yes, if you are simply funny it is still good.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Kidd
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Yes, if you are simply funny it is still good.
You mean funny like Carrot Top? Wierd Al? Rodney Dangerfield (RIP)? Galleger? Steven Right? Get my point?
 
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