"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How important is space?

ChunLiKasumi

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So I've been dating my current gf for more than a year now. We see each other about 5 to 6 times a week. I don't have any problem with this arrangement and I know that she likes having a day to herself to do her own thing. This is different than with my previous exs where we would spend everyday together. I didn't give this much thought because I figure every girl is different.

Lately, some of my relatives have been asking why I don't see her 7 times a day. They say that I should be seeing her everyday and that she doesnt follow th norm. The norm from their point of view is that I see her everyday and that she regularly comes over to my parents place for dinner, which my previous exs did. So they started implying that she may not be faithful to me.

I am of the opinion that they are just paranoid and I don't intend to do anything with regards to what they pointed out, but I would like some additional opinions, is space an indicator of anything or is it what I think it is, that it's a natural part of a relationship?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ArcBound

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I see my gf 3-6 times a week. I think you should be fine. In fact I would say you are more bordering on too much in one week, but that's just my personal opinion. I don't think that her not seeing you for 1 day means she is unfaithful.
 

Greasy Pig

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One of my favourite writers is Khalil Gibran, and one of my favourite quotes of his is: "And stand together, yet not too near together; for the pillars of the temple stand apart."

Look up the whole poem, it perfectly sums up my beliefs on what a relationship should be.
 
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