"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How important is space?

ChunLiKasumi

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So I've been dating my current gf for more than a year now. We see each other about 5 to 6 times a week. I don't have any problem with this arrangement and I know that she likes having a day to herself to do her own thing. This is different than with my previous exs where we would spend everyday together. I didn't give this much thought because I figure every girl is different.

Lately, some of my relatives have been asking why I don't see her 7 times a day. They say that I should be seeing her everyday and that she doesnt follow th norm. The norm from their point of view is that I see her everyday and that she regularly comes over to my parents place for dinner, which my previous exs did. So they started implying that she may not be faithful to me.

I am of the opinion that they are just paranoid and I don't intend to do anything with regards to what they pointed out, but I would like some additional opinions, is space an indicator of anything or is it what I think it is, that it's a natural part of a relationship?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ArcBound

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I see my gf 3-6 times a week. I think you should be fine. In fact I would say you are more bordering on too much in one week, but that's just my personal opinion. I don't think that her not seeing you for 1 day means she is unfaithful.
 

Greasy Pig

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One of my favourite writers is Khalil Gibran, and one of my favourite quotes of his is: "And stand together, yet not too near together; for the pillars of the temple stand apart."

Look up the whole poem, it perfectly sums up my beliefs on what a relationship should be.
 
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