"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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how important is social proof when PU?

david90

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I don't have a lot of friends b/c I can't seem to relate to most people but I do have a couple of good close friends. When PU, I always feel concsious about my place on the social ladder and it kinda lowers my confidence in the PU. The thought the a girl might not like me because i'm somewhat a loner is always on the back of my head.

Should I worry about it?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Derek Flint

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I've done well alone, with a wing, and with friends.

I've also done awful alone, with a wing, and with friends.

Get your inner game together, and it won't matter either way.
 

Fatality

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Last year in college I had zero friends and one acquaintance. I had the hottest girls in the school smiling and flirting with me in hallways without me initiating anything.

If you are a loner at school atleast let them know that you have friends outside of school.
 

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Originally posted by Interpol
In a microcosm society like a college campus or small town, social proof can be extremely important. It is somewhat less relevant, but still helpful, in a large city.

Agree 100%.

I don't think you need social proof (even in "microcosms"), but it can give you a huge boost. Someone on here once called it the "closest thing to magic", which I think is a nice way to put it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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