"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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how important is social proof when PU?

david90

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I don't have a lot of friends b/c I can't seem to relate to most people but I do have a couple of good close friends. When PU, I always feel concsious about my place on the social ladder and it kinda lowers my confidence in the PU. The thought the a girl might not like me because i'm somewhat a loner is always on the back of my head.

Should I worry about it?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Derek Flint

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I've done well alone, with a wing, and with friends.

I've also done awful alone, with a wing, and with friends.

Get your inner game together, and it won't matter either way.
 

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Last year in college I had zero friends and one acquaintance. I had the hottest girls in the school smiling and flirting with me in hallways without me initiating anything.

If you are a loner at school atleast let them know that you have friends outside of school.
 

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Originally posted by Interpol
In a microcosm society like a college campus or small town, social proof can be extremely important. It is somewhat less relevant, but still helpful, in a large city.

Agree 100%.

I don't think you need social proof (even in "microcosms"), but it can give you a huge boost. Someone on here once called it the "closest thing to magic", which I think is a nice way to put it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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