"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How important is humor/being funny?

sharpshooter

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I can laugh it up with all my friends, and they always tell me how funny my jokes are. However how do I translate this to new girls that I meet? I always have it in my head that I have to be a stand up comedian right away to them. Sometimes they end up not laughing at my jokes (or not getting them, i have a really weird sense of humor) and it makes for a really awkward time afterwards, or I just walk away. That's not the way to go right? I know so many serious d.j's that are getting girls by the second and they have NO sense of humor whatsoever...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SDBmania

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Funny is as funny does.

Humor is not always that important. It just depends on you. Comedy is my specialty, but you don't have to tell jokes to be funny. Like for me, I do story type of humor and I do puns and other old style stuff. But, I think confidence is the most important. Self-esteem. If you have that, then you don't need funny.

P.S. ****y Funny works wonders!
 

Ice Cold

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My calculations show that humour is only 8.243512433% important. :)

Cheers
 

LostbutFound

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Humor can be a great way to get to a girl....They love to laugh, any girl that doesnt has problems....Dont feel like you have to be a stand-up comedian like you said...just act as if its your own friends (except that **** and fart jokes) you'll find some girl that is attracted to you for that....i've seen it soo many times
 

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Don't listen to what other women say "He has to be funny" that is bullcrap. Just stick with ****y+funny routine and that'll win them all the time.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Kineti[C]harm

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Humour as any other positive quality has its effects... A good sense of humour wont outgame a crappy attitude or lack of confidence though.. But ye, it does help if it fits your personality which it obviously does.

Just make sure you arent just "That funny guy"
 

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I always like to win women over by doing a little number called "the crucifixion of a frog". When I'm talking to them I stop and act as though I'm crucifying an invisible frog.

HB: "What are you doing?"
Me: "I'm crucifying a frog."
HB: "What are you talking about?"
Me: "Well, if we're going to live in sin, someone has to suffer."
HB: "What the f***?"
Me: "Jesus died for our sins and since he's not around, I figured this frog would do."
HB: "You're freaking me out."
Me: "HAHAHAHA. I can't believe you fell for that! I was only joking."
HB: "Oh yeah, I knew all along."
Me: "No you didn't. You thought I was crazy or something."

At this point I lean over and shout "RAAAAAAAAA!" Then we can't stop laughing.
 

il_duce

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There is no way to "translate" humor to girls. Just be yourself, and use your own sense of humor. That's all there is to it. Girls are people too, you know.

The only difference I see between them and guys is the fact that girls:

1) are hot
2) have tits and nice asses (at least the girls I know)
3) have pussies :D

For the most part, I act the same around chicks as I do around my male friends. I don't alter my personality or sense of humor to cater to women.

Just be yourself. And if a chick doesn't dig your sense of humor, it's her loss. I know plenty of chicks who don't dig my sense of humor (well, I used to know them, I just don't hang out with them anymore), and I know plenty that do like my sense of humor. I might be a little egotistical saying this, but, if a girl doesn't get my jokes, she probably ain't smart enough or cool enough to meet my credentials.
 

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what do girls really want? sex? they just cant say they do

so when someone asks what she looks for in a guy, she will not say good sex, but rather, honesty, funny, etc

Being Funny will help but it wont get you laid on it's own.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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honestly speaking, girls want a guy that can make them laugh their heads off. things would be preeeettty dull if you were the all serious talker all the time.

i dont think C&F is as important as Witty funny, it's a different ball park and it does make you seem more clever as a person. i've rarely to never do any c&f to girls, cause there was no need to, but just used witty humor and they just crack up like that.
 

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I think this boils down to the girl. Not every person will find your sense of humor funny.

I'm generally an outgoing and funny guy. Most everyone I know tells me that. I tend to say whatever is on my mind. Some people take to it, while some don't. There's not much you can do about it.

If you like a girl, but she doesn't seem to get your sense of humor, maybe it's a better move to just move on.
 
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