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How Important Is Communication In A LTR?

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Yes, I remember your post in the thread I made


All chicks are plates before an LTR, it’s not like you get into a relationship before vetting them. That’s why I asked you the questions how obedient she was when she was your plate.

From your OP that she didn’t contact you when you got home to now where she is still on Facebook Messenger after she said goodnight…That it got under your skin so much screams that you do not have as strong a frame as you think.

Ghosting is what women do, I believe that men should be challengers. If you are in a position of power in the relationship, call her out on it. ‘I hopped on Messenger an hour and half after you said good night and saw you were still on, interesting’ Challenge that and get her uncomfortable. That will test how much she respects you and the relationship
She has always been pretty subservient from plate till even now.

This occasion is the first time she went out and didn't text me at all.. However she hasn't been out that Much for a while.

Around 4-5 weeks ago, she went out for a meal with friends and messaged me to let me know she is home.

Like I said before, her single mom freind might have some influence in this situation.

And yes I think you are right, these fukin games are exhausting lol.

Sometimes i just want to call a girl out and expose her crappy behaviour.
 

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Yes, I remember your post in the thread I made


All chicks are plates before an LTR, it’s not like you get into a relationship before vetting them. That’s why I asked you the questions how obedient she was when she was your plate.

From your OP that she didn’t contact you when you got home to now where she is still on Facebook Messenger after she said goodnight…That it got under your skin so much screams that you do not have as strong a frame as you think.

Ghosting is what women do, I believe that men should be challengers. If you are in a position of power in the relationship, call her out on it. ‘I hopped on Messenger an hour and half after you said good night and saw you were still on, interesting’ Challenge that and get her uncomfortable. That will test how much she respects you and the relationship
Yeh i think tomorrow I will mention, that she was still on messenger after saying goodnight. The thing with ghosting or passive aggressiveness is, these woman are simply so oblivious to their crappy behaviour, that we men sometimes need to shame them and point it out to them
 

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Yeh i think tomorrow I will mention, that she was still on messenger after saying goodnight.
I´m sorry........

but this whole thread reeks of clinginess, neediness, desperation, and insecurity. Just read your comments from start, you are all over the place, more or less because she didnt tell you good night the other day.

Maybe she just was fed up by your feminine behavior and wanted to chill before sleeping. Its what i did after talking to exhausting women, chill.

Man, really? You gonna call her out for not switching out the lights immediately after she went off the phone? How old are you?

You gonna scare the **** out of that woman, if you havent allready.
 

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I´m sorry........

but this whole thread reeks of clinginess, neediness, desperation, and insecurity. Just read your comments from start, you are all over the place, more or less because she didnt tell you good night the other day.

Maybe she just was fed up by your feminine behavior and wanted to chill before sleeping. Its what i did after talking to exhausting women, chill.

Man, really? You gonna call her out for not switching out the lights immediately after she went off the phone? How old are you?

You gonna scare the **** out of that woman, if you havent allready.
I´m sorry........

but this whole thread reeks of clinginess, neediness, desperation, and insecurity. Just read your comments from start, you are all over the place, more or less because she didnt tell you good night the other day.

Maybe she just was fed up by your feminine behavior and wanted to chill before sleeping. Its what i did after talking to exhausting women, chill.

Man, really? You gonna call her out for not switching out the lights immediately after she went off the phone? How old are you?

You gonna scare the **** out of that woman, if you havent allready.
Haha I didn't call her on it, she doesn't sleep well so I think she said goodnight and went back online for a bit.
 

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I´m sorry........

but this whole thread reeks of clinginess, neediness, desperation, and insecurity. Just read your comments from start, you are all over the place, more or less because she didnt tell you good night the other day.

Maybe she just was fed up by your feminine behavior and wanted to chill before sleeping. Its what i did after talking to exhausting women, chill.

Man, really? You gonna call her out for not switching out the lights immediately after she went off the phone? How old are you?

You gonna scare the **** out of that woman, if you havent allready.

It's not that she didn't say goodnight. I NEVER say goodnight to her anyway. She initiates 99% of goodnights.

However unlike you I have certain boundaries in an LTR, one of those is simply letting me know that you got home ok.

If that is needy, then it is what it is Mr alpha.. you clearly don't know how to lay down any boundaries
 

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The going missing on a night out is suspect. Being online after saying good night isn’t that big a deal imo. If it bothered you speak to her about it, you’re literally living inside your head. You will speak to her for 5 minutes then spend 5 days internalising and overthinking it all. Get it all out of the table.
 

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The going missing on a night out is suspect. Being online after saying good night isn’t that big a deal imo. If it bothered you speak to her about it, you’re literally living inside your head. You will speak to her for 5 minutes then spend 5 days internalising and overthinking it all. Get it all out of the table.
Yeh I didn't actually ask her about what happened that night, but she claimed she was home and in bed early just was tired etc. I'm not buying it, I think she was home, but she was chvt testing.

And the being online thing, she probably couldn't sleep so letting that slide
 

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Yeh I didn't actually ask her about what happened that night, but she claimed she was home and in bed early just was tired etc. I'm not buying it, I think she was home, but she was chvt testing.

And the being online thing, she probably couldn't sleep so letting that slide
Maybe im missing something but I still don’t see why this is such a big deal? She could’ve just fell asleep on the couch or something. It seems like you are turning nothing in to a chaotic hurricane.
 

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Maybe im missing something but I still don’t see why this is such a big deal? She could’ve just fell asleep on the couch or something. It seems like you are turning nothing in to a chaotic hurricane.
Unlikely.. She was online wide awake when she got home from the cinema according to her, takes 2 seconds to fire off a quick text.

What are the chances she always manages to message on a night no matter how late it is.. on the night she goes out, some how she fails to text... Not only that, fails to text in the morning too.. it's not her usual pattern.
 

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What are the chances she always manages to message on a night no matter how late it is.. on the night she goes out, some how she fails to text... Not only that, fails to text in the morning too.. it's not her usual pattern.
I agree something is off.
 

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Unlikely.. She was online wide awake when she got home from the cinema according to her, takes 2 seconds to fire off a quick text.

What are the chances she always manages to message on a night no matter how late it is.. on the night she goes out, some how she fails to text... Not only that, fails to text in the morning too.. it's not her usual pattern.
Why does she need to text you every night? Okay, let's say she did message you back after getting home, but literally hopped on some other dude's dvck in her bed or left her place to go to somewhere else. Meanwhile, you go to sleep happily ever after because she sent some pointless good night text to you. This is why I think this is silly because if she was going to cheat on you, she WILL regardless of these texting rules you have. These rules make you look like some paranoid failed dictator afraid of being assassinated by the populace, not some confident strong leader that is well-liked by his subjects. Even if she just fell asleep and forgot to text you back, you are turning her against you with these silly rules of yours.
 

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Why does she need to text you every night? Okay, let's say she did message you back after getting home, but literally hopped on some other dude's dvck in her bed or left her place to go to somewhere else. Meanwhile, you go to sleep happily ever after because she sent some pointless good night text to you. This is why I think this is silly because if she was going to cheat on you, she WILL regardless of these texting rules you have. These rules make you look like some paranoid failed dictator afraid of being assassinated by the populace, not some confident strong leader that is well-liked by his subjects. Even if she just fell asleep and forgot to text you back, you are turning her against you with these silly rules of yours.
Dude you are missing the point... She doesn't need to text me goodnight. I never initiate goodnight or good morning texts. However I have simply asked her to let me know she got home ok..

And this might come as a Fukin shock to you! People in LTRs do say goodnight and goodnight to eachother. Crazy right?
 

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Why does she need to text you every night? Okay, let's say she did message you back after getting home, but literally hopped on some other dude's dvck in her bed or left her place to go to somewhere else. Meanwhile, you go to sleep happily ever after because she sent some pointless good night text to you. This is why I think this is silly because if she was going to cheat on you, she WILL regardless of these texting rules you have. These rules make you look like some paranoid failed dictator afraid of being assassinated by the populace, not some confident strong leader that is well-liked by his subjects. Even if she just fell asleep and forgot to text you back, you are turning her against you with these silly rules of yours.

Let me know you got home ok Is a crazy silly rule? Wow I need to remember that one.
 

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Why does she need to text you every night? Okay, let's say she did message you back after getting home, but literally hopped on some other dude's dvck in her bed or left her place to go to somewhere else. Meanwhile, you go to sleep happily ever after because she sent some pointless good night text to you. This is why I think this is silly because if she was going to cheat on you, she WILL regardless of these texting rules you have. These rules make you look like some paranoid failed dictator afraid of being assassinated by the populace, not some confident strong leader that is well-liked by his subjects. Even if she just fell asleep and forgot to text you back, you are turning her against you with these silly rules of yours.

Your conflating two different things together. I don't need her to say goodnight to me every night, in-fact I try to avoid goodnight text messages all together.

This is not about, oh chit she didn't say goodnight.

This is about when in a LTR.. If my girl is out late, she needs lets me know she got home fine.

If I went out for the night, and simply did not make contact again till late the following day, I bet my last cent, she would be asking the same questions.

Most people in LTRs would expect this from there chick. What planet are you on lol
 

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Your conflating two different things together. I don't need her to say goodnight to me every night, in-fact I try to avoid goodnight text messages all together.

This is not about, oh chit she didn't say goodnight.

This is about when in a LTR.. If my girl is out late, she needs lets me know she got home fine.

If I went out for the night, and simply did not make contact again till late the following day, I bet my last cent, she would be asking the same questions.

Most people in LTRs would expect this from there chick. What planet are you on lol
Is it concerning? Possibly. Is it worth freaking over and ghosting your GF? Heavens No. You should've just said the next morning, Hey I never saw your text notifying me that you made it home safely, Are you Okay? I forget stuff all of the time, we aren't perfect. She could've just been drunk and passed out and woke up late which seems normal to me after a night out.
 

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OP i have read several of your posts in this thread and more and more is coming out

There are multiple questions than can really be answered and i am now 90% certain there is another guy on the scene because as soon as they give you the old " i'm off to sleep "

yet you can see she is still online you have a big problem because not only has she directly lied to you , but you have to ask what exactly is so important she needs to be online constantly at that hour !?!

My last main plate / gf whatever you want to call her

was particularly devious she would have sold her own mother if it meant be believing her lies , i think even she believed them but eventually i put all the pieces of the puzzle together and had her dead to rights

Modern women really really struggle with being honest and transparent , there's just too much temptation out there

Proceed with extreme caution
 
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