"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How important are friends?

SgtSplacker

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A couple good friends are critical. My friends help motivate me and keep me up to par. I see they buy houses and I bought a house. I see them being more professional and I start getting my gear in check. One of my best friends helped me buy my condo and we split his realtor fees so the initial purchase was actually profitable for me. I would not trade my friends for anything. They are the people I spend most of my time with and without them my life would have a huge hole in it. I have been playing online games with the same group of guys I went to HS with for over 20 years.

When I was younger I chose my friends and this does not always turn out good. After a while I started letting my friends choose me and like this I have made some of my best friends yet. I guess this is the best friendship advice I can give is to let your friends choose you.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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MrNiceGuy23

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I think in order to truly be happy in life you must come to accept yourself and be happy and content with alone time by yourself. This doesn't mean you should be happy never interacting with another person, but that when you are alone you shouldn't feel depressed or sad you should be capable being along and enjoying the time to yourself.

Then you meet people who enhance your life (not complete it). You should be a complete person by yourself, your friends are what makes it more fun.

I believe friends are necessary and essential to happiness, but if you're unhappy with yourself and being alone, then you won't solve the problems by just going out and having friends, you just cover up the problems.
 

TonyBaloney

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To all those people who are saying "You gotta be happy with yourself, sitting alone bla bla bla" What a load of rubbish!!!!

Why should you?

It is a natural instinct to want companionship and camaraderie; Our instincts tell us mingle for a reason. Dont sit their for years looking to get happy with yourself - their is fangita to hunt, babys to make and riends to share a beer with you sad wackos!
 

Ihateinitiatingalot7

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being a loner, having little or no friends is much worse if you are a guy, girls place a huge emphasis on outgoingness
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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