"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How important are friends?

SgtSplacker

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A couple good friends are critical. My friends help motivate me and keep me up to par. I see they buy houses and I bought a house. I see them being more professional and I start getting my gear in check. One of my best friends helped me buy my condo and we split his realtor fees so the initial purchase was actually profitable for me. I would not trade my friends for anything. They are the people I spend most of my time with and without them my life would have a huge hole in it. I have been playing online games with the same group of guys I went to HS with for over 20 years.

When I was younger I chose my friends and this does not always turn out good. After a while I started letting my friends choose me and like this I have made some of my best friends yet. I guess this is the best friendship advice I can give is to let your friends choose you.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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MrNiceGuy23

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I think in order to truly be happy in life you must come to accept yourself and be happy and content with alone time by yourself. This doesn't mean you should be happy never interacting with another person, but that when you are alone you shouldn't feel depressed or sad you should be capable being along and enjoying the time to yourself.

Then you meet people who enhance your life (not complete it). You should be a complete person by yourself, your friends are what makes it more fun.

I believe friends are necessary and essential to happiness, but if you're unhappy with yourself and being alone, then you won't solve the problems by just going out and having friends, you just cover up the problems.
 

TonyBaloney

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To all those people who are saying "You gotta be happy with yourself, sitting alone bla bla bla" What a load of rubbish!!!!

Why should you?

It is a natural instinct to want companionship and camaraderie; Our instincts tell us mingle for a reason. Dont sit their for years looking to get happy with yourself - their is fangita to hunt, babys to make and riends to share a beer with you sad wackos!
 

Ihateinitiatingalot7

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being a loner, having little or no friends is much worse if you are a guy, girls place a huge emphasis on outgoingness
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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