"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How important are friends?

SgtSplacker

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A couple good friends are critical. My friends help motivate me and keep me up to par. I see they buy houses and I bought a house. I see them being more professional and I start getting my gear in check. One of my best friends helped me buy my condo and we split his realtor fees so the initial purchase was actually profitable for me. I would not trade my friends for anything. They are the people I spend most of my time with and without them my life would have a huge hole in it. I have been playing online games with the same group of guys I went to HS with for over 20 years.

When I was younger I chose my friends and this does not always turn out good. After a while I started letting my friends choose me and like this I have made some of my best friends yet. I guess this is the best friendship advice I can give is to let your friends choose you.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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MrNiceGuy23

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I think in order to truly be happy in life you must come to accept yourself and be happy and content with alone time by yourself. This doesn't mean you should be happy never interacting with another person, but that when you are alone you shouldn't feel depressed or sad you should be capable being along and enjoying the time to yourself.

Then you meet people who enhance your life (not complete it). You should be a complete person by yourself, your friends are what makes it more fun.

I believe friends are necessary and essential to happiness, but if you're unhappy with yourself and being alone, then you won't solve the problems by just going out and having friends, you just cover up the problems.
 

TonyBaloney

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To all those people who are saying "You gotta be happy with yourself, sitting alone bla bla bla" What a load of rubbish!!!!

Why should you?

It is a natural instinct to want companionship and camaraderie; Our instincts tell us mingle for a reason. Dont sit their for years looking to get happy with yourself - their is fangita to hunt, babys to make and riends to share a beer with you sad wackos!
 

Ihateinitiatingalot7

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being a loner, having little or no friends is much worse if you are a guy, girls place a huge emphasis on outgoingness
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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