SeymourCake
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How imporant do you think posture should be when out in the public?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How imporant do you think posture should be when out in the public?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
btownbuck2012
Master Don Juan
don't worry about your posture. worry about whether or not you feel comfortable being out in public around other people. If you're comfortable in your own skin, socially aware, etc, etc your poster is going to be fine without you even thinking about it.SeymourCake said:
RedScorpion
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I'd say sometimes it's not that simple. Your body is going to be adapted to whatever posture you most commonly adopt. Muscle memory. You sometimes have to break that mold by placing your body into a proper stance, and maintaining it. Shoulders, up, back and down is a good one, neck straight up, chin slightly up. I know there's more but those are a few good ones.btownbuck2012 said:
I'd like to add too that your posture also affects your psychology as well. Say you're feeling down, but instead of slouching, you stand proper. Your mind will pick up that 'hey, my body isn't feeling down, why am I feeling down?'. And your mind will adapt based on that.
Here's one link that talks a bit about it - http://www.bettermovement.org/2011/posture-and-mood-a-two-way-street/
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Packers2010
Master Don Juan
as a guy who has the WORST posture you have ever seen for a 22 year old guy. it's VERY important. i can't count the times people have told me to put my shoulders back ad stand up straight.
it's THAT important that if i had normal poster like everyone else. i think my life would be COMPLETELY different. ( i am working on fixing this)
it's THAT important that if i had normal poster like everyone else. i think my life would be COMPLETELY different. ( i am working on fixing this)
SgtSplacker
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I read that the proper posture when dating is to be somewhat relaxed and spread out.
Gro0ver
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This is very true. Apparently research has shown women are attracted to guys who are relaxed and spread their weight out. I do this after a few drinks anyway, it shows relaxation and a kind of oneness with the environment. If she is interested she will seek out the protection of itSgtSplacker said:
Zippapants
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I used to have pretty bad posture, but I found that as my confidence grew, I took on a more outward, powerful stance. Very little need to adjust due to muscle memory, but that was just me.