jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
For years, I've known a person who seems to have built his entire life on understanding and satisfying the needs of others. Instead of following his own passions and his own path, he studies the desires of those around him and slowly positions himself as the one who fulfills those needs. Over time, these people begin to depend on him, and he ends up in very advantageous positions.
Some examples:
• His girlfriend wanted someone who could work with her father and take over the family business. He never openly said, "I want that job." Instead, he slowly got involved: studying small things, getting certifications, showing up for work. He even said things like, "I'll never be a manager; I'd rather be a janitor." Eventually, he became exactly what she wanted,a manager and his father's right-hand man,but he built it as if she believed it was her idea.
• His father manages a basketball team. He started out simply helping carry the equipment on Sundays. He didn't even care about basketball, but gradually took on more responsibility and eventually became a manager of the organization.
• With his younger brother, he positioned himself as a sort of mentor. He gives advice on cars, careers, and life decisions, but does so in a way that makes his brother feel like he's making all the decisions himself.
• With his uncle, he began accompanying him every Saturday to check on the swimming pools he manages. He never directly asked him to take over the business, but over time, his uncle decided to name him his heir.
This pattern is repeated everywhere. He seems very good at identifying people's emotional or practical needs and then becoming the person who meets them. The result is that he appears highly respected, influential, and well-connected. Many people around him rely on him. But at the same time, it seems like his life is built around the interests of others rather than his own
... so I'm curious:
Have you ever met anyone like this? What kind of personality or mindset is this? Is it strategic intelligence, manipulation, or something else? Is it toxic? Do we have some red flags to filter someone like this to be Narcisist, Sociopath or Psycopath?
Some examples:
• His girlfriend wanted someone who could work with her father and take over the family business. He never openly said, "I want that job." Instead, he slowly got involved: studying small things, getting certifications, showing up for work. He even said things like, "I'll never be a manager; I'd rather be a janitor." Eventually, he became exactly what she wanted,a manager and his father's right-hand man,but he built it as if she believed it was her idea.
• His father manages a basketball team. He started out simply helping carry the equipment on Sundays. He didn't even care about basketball, but gradually took on more responsibility and eventually became a manager of the organization.
• With his younger brother, he positioned himself as a sort of mentor. He gives advice on cars, careers, and life decisions, but does so in a way that makes his brother feel like he's making all the decisions himself.
• With his uncle, he began accompanying him every Saturday to check on the swimming pools he manages. He never directly asked him to take over the business, but over time, his uncle decided to name him his heir.
This pattern is repeated everywhere. He seems very good at identifying people's emotional or practical needs and then becoming the person who meets them. The result is that he appears highly respected, influential, and well-connected. Many people around him rely on him. But at the same time, it seems like his life is built around the interests of others rather than his own
... so I'm curious:
Have you ever met anyone like this? What kind of personality or mindset is this? Is it strategic intelligence, manipulation, or something else? Is it toxic? Do we have some red flags to filter someone like this to be Narcisist, Sociopath or Psycopath?
