In a way this site is somewhat hurting my confidence. I see MANY stories on the forums of guys telling their stories and everyone tells the guy she's not interested or doesn't like him. Do these guys just have bad game or is it really hard to get a girl to like you?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How hard is to get a girl interested in you?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
belividere
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This site shouldn't be hindering your ability to think you can get a girl. To be honest most of the replies of that nature are to threads dealing with guys who are investing way too much time in a girl who obviously isn't interested in him. When you read those replies you have to consider that many of the posters may have been in the same situation and now regret it. It isn't about knocking someone down around here. It is just about giving someone with problems a little jumpstart on the reality of their situation. Sometimes you need someone to be an a$$hole to you before you realize that you are doing the completely wrong thing.
But dont sweat it. Go read the bible. Go out and practice and remember to enjoy yourself while you are doing it. Dont get discouraged because a rejection just means there is one less girl that you have to worry about approaching. Honestly read the bible and poke around here reading threads and check the tips section. You will be a better man for it and will not worry about how hard it is to get women in no time.
But dont sweat it. Go read the bible. Go out and practice and remember to enjoy yourself while you are doing it. Dont get discouraged because a rejection just means there is one less girl that you have to worry about approaching. Honestly read the bible and poke around here reading threads and check the tips section. You will be a better man for it and will not worry about how hard it is to get women in no time.
DeathDealer
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I admit I give a hard time to some posters here. They don't really pay attention to the constant new threads of the same sh1t over and over and if they do read the bible, they rarely pay attention to it because they never apply the material properly or assume that it's 100% true faith.
Some of these posts are great comic relief, I collect them and post them on another website. I especially love the 2-3 page whines.
Some of these posts are great comic relief, I collect them and post them on another website. I especially love the 2-3 page whines.
Dapper Swindler
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Usually those guys have double or even single digit post counts. They're just starting out and are learning. Also, of course there are going to be more posts about rejection. If the guy succeeded in getting the girl and everything was peachy, what would he need to post about?
rgeere
Master Don Juan
Actually, I've never had a problem with girls not liking me. Even a lot of girls with boyfriends like me, and that has always been a temptation.
The funny thing is the pattern I notice, I have girls that seek me out the same time every month. I use to have some pet rabbits that acted the same way when I was younger, very odd...
The funny thing is the pattern I notice, I have girls that seek me out the same time every month. I use to have some pet rabbits that acted the same way when I was younger, very odd...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Donald Kaufman
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If you are not sure if a girl likes you and you are thinking about it too much and you become so concerned you post here about it ...
1. She doesn't like you.
2. You are too concerned about her feelings and not enough about yours. If you're not in trouble now you will be soon and you better rethink what you are doing.
3. You don't have enough going on in your life and you might want to spruce it up.
4. You are dealing with a woman that is deeply deeply into heavy game playing and you should probably take a step back.
5. You are looking for "yes" men who will tell you what you want to hear.
6. You are looking for "no" men that will tell you what you need to hear.
7. You need a wake up call just to get out of the trance you have fallen into.
8. You live under a bridge and eat goats.
I'm sure there are others and maybe someone can suggest some but it's almost always about inner game. Getting a women to like you isn't rocket science but it does require inner work.
It's like when people called Dr. Laura:
Hi Dr. Laura, I work as a prostitute and am trying to get my kids hooked on heroin. Do you think I'm doing the right thing?
She probably won't think you are doing the right thing.
Somewhere inside there is a part of a persons brain that realizes things are not going right and that their conscious mind will not do what needs to be done. They drive the person to find someone to *****slap them. They might argue and resist but hopefully some reality will stick.
Some people cannot bounce back till they hit some kind of bottom. Even if the other person might like them they need to be scared straight. If the post is at least a couple sentences long there will be some clues. Some people want to next everyone. But the more thoughtful posts will try to help the poster with the inner game.
If your confidence slips it is probably a sign you need to work on your confidence. Your brain is trying to help you before you hit bottom. Consider it. A little tweak now might prevent the need for an overhaul later.
Also, some people are just angry and like to vent here.
1. She doesn't like you.
2. You are too concerned about her feelings and not enough about yours. If you're not in trouble now you will be soon and you better rethink what you are doing.
3. You don't have enough going on in your life and you might want to spruce it up.
4. You are dealing with a woman that is deeply deeply into heavy game playing and you should probably take a step back.
5. You are looking for "yes" men who will tell you what you want to hear.
6. You are looking for "no" men that will tell you what you need to hear.
7. You need a wake up call just to get out of the trance you have fallen into.
8. You live under a bridge and eat goats.
I'm sure there are others and maybe someone can suggest some but it's almost always about inner game. Getting a women to like you isn't rocket science but it does require inner work.
It's like when people called Dr. Laura:
Hi Dr. Laura, I work as a prostitute and am trying to get my kids hooked on heroin. Do you think I'm doing the right thing?
She probably won't think you are doing the right thing.
Somewhere inside there is a part of a persons brain that realizes things are not going right and that their conscious mind will not do what needs to be done. They drive the person to find someone to *****slap them. They might argue and resist but hopefully some reality will stick.
Some people cannot bounce back till they hit some kind of bottom. Even if the other person might like them they need to be scared straight. If the post is at least a couple sentences long there will be some clues. Some people want to next everyone. But the more thoughtful posts will try to help the poster with the inner game.
If your confidence slips it is probably a sign you need to work on your confidence. Your brain is trying to help you before you hit bottom. Consider it. A little tweak now might prevent the need for an overhaul later.
Also, some people are just angry and like to vent here.
Guerrero
Don Juan
How hard is it to get a girl to suck your di*k!? That's how hard it is to get a girl interested in you
Go read the f*cking bible! and not the king james version either unless you wanna learn how to hate people different from you
Go read the f*cking bible! and not the king james version either unless you wanna learn how to hate people different from you
Apart from improving yourself and making yourself more attractive to women in general, there's really not much you can do to get a particular girl interested in you. Either she is or isn't. There are things you can do to raise interest level, but that's assuming there was even some to start with. If there's none at all, there's nothing you can do about it, and that's why you shouldn't waste time that you could be spending on someone who is interested. Every success story I've read on here started with there being some mutual interest. If there's one where the girl initially had zero interest, I'd like to hear it.
Some women are just not going to be interested. It's a fact of life, and actually helps my confidence to realize that and not get upset when it happens.
Some women are just not going to be interested. It's a fact of life, and actually helps my confidence to realize that and not get upset when it happens.