aspiringbloomer
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in college, they were dime a dozen
how about after college?
how about after college?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
how hard is it to meet single and attractive women after college?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
sylvester the cat
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are you related to lonewolflegend or dhoulmagus?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
aspiringbloomer
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RangerMIke
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Okay... I'll state the obvious. Your game has to change. The ratio of men to women is the same, but what women look for in a man changes dramatically after college.aspiringbloomer said:
Any woman that left college without a guy in tow no longer really cares as much about POTENTIAL in a man, she is looking for someone that has something demonstably going for him. The other problem a young guy has going against him is that he is competing for women in their early 20s with men that are in their mid 30s.... These men in their mid-30s have a lot more going for them than you do. He has an established career... is A LOT more experienced, and has more going for him that a guy right out of college.
Men get better with age, women don't. A women right out of college is at the top of her game, men don't REALLY peak until they hit their 40s.
Zapp Brannigan
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Let's be honest here, and address the elephant in the room. College is not like the American Pie sequels, Road Trip, Animal House, or the countless other films that show college as a Neverland of sorts full of beer, beautiful women, and everyone is getting into comedic mischief involving sex.
Like foreverAFC said the frat guys are shady characters, and the sororities aren't full of beautiful women. I know people who went to expensive far away universities with those expectations, and were left disappointed. I also know girls who were in sororities, and let me tell you they're typically big headed, wannabe feminist/liberal, up-tight, and aren't that attractive.
I've only had the community college experience. While there are an abundance of women, the majority of them aren't worth the trouble. You have pretty much three types, ones who behave like total wh0res, secret slvts, and attention wh0res who string along the same orbiters from high school but are looking for new ones. VERY few of the females haven't been like that.
There's large amounts of attractive women everywhere. The female population outnumbers men, so there's plenty out there. Just go out and meet some. You'd honestly meet a better quality of woman somewhere else.
This obsession needs to stop. You're in your 20s, and have plenty of life ahead of you. Do you really want to look back at now, and remember this? How you obsessed over not fvcking some tuna boat wh0res in college, and therefore didn't have a meaningful college life because it didn't meet the standards of a teen comedy? How you think college is full of sex with good women, just because the guy on Road Trip had sex with that hot blonde at the beginning of the film.
I'll be sure to post this on any other accounts that post the same question.
Like foreverAFC said the frat guys are shady characters, and the sororities aren't full of beautiful women. I know people who went to expensive far away universities with those expectations, and were left disappointed. I also know girls who were in sororities, and let me tell you they're typically big headed, wannabe feminist/liberal, up-tight, and aren't that attractive.
I've only had the community college experience. While there are an abundance of women, the majority of them aren't worth the trouble. You have pretty much three types, ones who behave like total wh0res, secret slvts, and attention wh0res who string along the same orbiters from high school but are looking for new ones. VERY few of the females haven't been like that.
There's large amounts of attractive women everywhere. The female population outnumbers men, so there's plenty out there. Just go out and meet some. You'd honestly meet a better quality of woman somewhere else.
This obsession needs to stop. You're in your 20s, and have plenty of life ahead of you. Do you really want to look back at now, and remember this? How you obsessed over not fvcking some tuna boat wh0res in college, and therefore didn't have a meaningful college life because it didn't meet the standards of a teen comedy? How you think college is full of sex with good women, just because the guy on Road Trip had sex with that hot blonde at the beginning of the film.
I'll be sure to post this on any other accounts that post the same question.