"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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how fast are your hands?

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can you drop a foot-square white pine board and break it ("with the grain") with a punch? Can you drop a coin, draw a pistol from concealment and fire before the coin hits the ground? A lot of women like having a "man's man", and men dig this sort of stuff, a lot. Yet it's pretty simple to build this sort of speed, actually. It just takes determination and a few months of spare time, a few minutes per day.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i feel like my piano playing/practice I probably do have faster hands than the avg person does. once you start getting into advanced licks /chord progeessions, espeically wtih jazz.

also feel I am more creative than the avg person, something I think that this has alot to do with as well. i have been playing the piano for 2 deacdes and to this day can't read sheet music. i play the violin and can read trebble clef for the violin like i am reading this post, but never bothered to learn for the piano. but if i don't have perfect pitch it's pretty damn close, if i hear something a few times i can generally play what i hear to the key, but what i usually do is is just to use a song as a baseline to **** around with various chords. very erroll garner eque, i rarely play the same thing if ever twice.

lol one of my wife's biggest pet peeves of mine is whenever i hear a song i have never heard before, or hell just a song in gneeral i break out my imaginary piano and start playing it without even thinking about it, it's out of habit now. she thought i was full of ****, about 6 months after i met her she bet me basically a really good home cooked meal of whatever i wanted i coudldn't play the next song that came on the radio, and it was a jazzed up version of John Brown's Body which I nailed in about 10 mintues after hearing it a few times. I mean, not to the extent that oscar peterson nailed it make no mistake, you will never mistake me for oscar peterson, there are things he can do on the piano i just physically can't do yet ("with his hands) is i but i nailed it nevertheless. talk about floored lol.

one of my goals one day is to put out a CD of me playing christmas jazz music. i don't give a **** if i sale one copy lol. i have talent, just so i can say i did it.
 

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backbreaker said:
one of my goals one day is to put out a CD of me playing christmas jazz music. i don't give a **** if i sale one copy lol. i have talent, just so i can say i did it.
Lovin your attitude, I feel like the essence of a man can be found in his legacy. Whether it's physical (a book, CD, some kinda product) or something of intellectual value like a unique philosophy, discovery or skill that he can pass on to others in and beyond his life's boundaries.

Btw, stop comparing yourself with Oscar Peterson. :crackup:
There's a couple of people with maybe 10 percent of his talent making a decent living off of their talent. There's ALWAYS room for original, hard-working people.
 
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one of my goals one day is to put out a CD of me playing christmas jazz music. i don't give a **** if i sale one copy lol. i have talent, just so i can say i did it.
Seriously do that backbreaker. I had been meaning to put together a CD since 7th grade or so and I kept putting it off. When I finally actually finished it in 2008 (like almost 10 years later), it was totally worth it. By then I had a band I we sold 50 copies (woohoo).

But it wasn't those 50 copies that made it great... it was the fact that I had a CD that I was 100% responsible for. It was a tangible expression of my work.

Seriously, do it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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HoneyHitter said:
Lovin your attitude, I feel like the essence of a man can be found in his legacy. Whether it's physical (a book, CD, some kinda product) or something of intellectual value like a unique philosophy, discovery or skill that he can pass on to others in and beyond his life's boundaries.

Btw, stop comparing yourself with Oscar Peterson. :crackup:
There's a couple of people with maybe 10 percent of his talent making a decent living off of their talent. There's ALWAYS room for original, hard-working people.
lol i wasn't trying to, just that the particular song was played by Oscar Peterson, and when I said i nailed dit i didn't want to make it sound like i nailed the song in the sense that he nailed it, and could lay the song verbatim as he could, because i can't.
 

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I wrote Paladin Press's best selling book, a little how-to pamphlet entitled. HOW TO MAKE A SILENCER FOR A .22. It has made them millons of $, sold over 1/2 million copies since 1994, but unfortunately, I took an immediate, small "lump sum" because I was desperately in need of cash. I'd now be making 20k a year off of that book, had I kept the rights to it. Sheesh, makes me puke to think of it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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