"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How far can I fall?

CactusMcDougal

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*Sigh* It pains me to even write this because I know I am going to receive quite a few flames for it.

How bad can my situation get if I don't proactively attempt to follow the DJ way? I am 17 and nowhere near being able to move away from my parents. My current goals are to get my Master's degree and to possibly start a business. I have no real interests other than games, books, anime, and technology. All in all, I have assessed my situation endlessly and have found no opportunity to work on my AFCism in the near future. So, I have decided that I will only focus on my work for the time being. But, in that meantime, how bad do you think my situation could get? When is it just too late to turn back? What's the worst-case scenario?
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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THE_ADDMAN

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the worst case scenario is that you die unfulfilled and full of "I wish" and "If only I had...".
 

MrConfidence

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Oh please. It's really not that bad. Looking at your post, I'm assuming you're just bored, or something, so just join a sports team, or join a club.
 

DamHE

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MrConfidence giving advice?? Shouldn't you be begging for pity somewhere?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sean O

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Cactus, you don't need to be a super-athlete to get chicks. In fact, it's better to have nerdy hobbies than to have no hobbies at all! The difference between the nerd that gets chicks and the nerd that doesn't is that the nerd that gets chicks has strong inner game, and the nerd that doesn't has weak inner game.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=113316 Read my second post in this thread for a description of what I mean when I say "inner game".
 

FM 3321

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Wow, I so wish I found this website when I was 17. I was 24 when I first saw this site..haha.
 

ascalon

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Hah,don't worry man. I am sure you can't get that kinda decision at all. It's impossible just to "stop" meeting girls. There are everywhere! A friend of mine who showed me this website says that he always wanted to change because of the girls .Now he finds out that this change was not necessary(NOT USELESS!) at all,because there are chicks for everybody everywhere.Just do what you think you have to do and I am sure you will find your type of girl with the time.Just sit watch learn and don't miss your chances.


I think you know the worst scenario- the worst risk is not to take risks at all!

If you refuse meeting girls , you will .... (finish by yourself)
 

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DamHE said:
MrConfidence giving advice?? Shouldn't you be begging for pity somewhere?
He's got a sense of humour. Haha I think he's busting on what he see's as all the "retards" on here and their assumptions because that's all we supposedly do is assume :rolleyes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Zerotwoonenine

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lol buddy i was alot worse than you. You are busy and you have a clear goal for the future, you know where you are heading, stick to it and while studying, instead of watching tv, get the DJ guide and read that, you dont have to go out into the field right now, all you have to do first is get your life sorted. Once you got that out the way and manage your time properly, then you can have a good relationship, a girlfriend cannot make your life better if you havent got it sorted.
 

CactusMcDougal

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Zerotwoonenine said:
lol buddy i was alot worse than you. You are busy and you have a clear goal for the future, you know where you are heading, stick to it and while studying, instead of watching tv, get the DJ guide and read that, you dont have to go out into the field right now, all you have to do first is get your life sorted. Once you got that out the way and manage your time properly, then you can have a good relationship, a girlfriend cannot make your life better if you havent got it sorted.
Read the DJ Bible three times through. Nicely done book, but theory won't get me anywhere. But, yes, for the time being, I do not plan on going out in the field, as you say.
 

Zerotwoonenine

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thanks for the rep, for that you can have my personal collection of gold articles on sosuave.net, it took me 3 weeks to compile all these and it range from topic from first contact to what to do later. Just PM me or email me and i can send it to you. NO ONE HAS IT SINCE ITS MY PERSONAL COPY and since we relate, i decide i can pass it on to you. Thank me later.
 
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