"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How far can I fall?

CactusMcDougal

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*Sigh* It pains me to even write this because I know I am going to receive quite a few flames for it.

How bad can my situation get if I don't proactively attempt to follow the DJ way? I am 17 and nowhere near being able to move away from my parents. My current goals are to get my Master's degree and to possibly start a business. I have no real interests other than games, books, anime, and technology. All in all, I have assessed my situation endlessly and have found no opportunity to work on my AFCism in the near future. So, I have decided that I will only focus on my work for the time being. But, in that meantime, how bad do you think my situation could get? When is it just too late to turn back? What's the worst-case scenario?
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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THE_ADDMAN

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the worst case scenario is that you die unfulfilled and full of "I wish" and "If only I had...".
 

MrConfidence

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Oh please. It's really not that bad. Looking at your post, I'm assuming you're just bored, or something, so just join a sports team, or join a club.
 

DamHE

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MrConfidence giving advice?? Shouldn't you be begging for pity somewhere?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Sean O

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Cactus, you don't need to be a super-athlete to get chicks. In fact, it's better to have nerdy hobbies than to have no hobbies at all! The difference between the nerd that gets chicks and the nerd that doesn't is that the nerd that gets chicks has strong inner game, and the nerd that doesn't has weak inner game.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=113316 Read my second post in this thread for a description of what I mean when I say "inner game".
 

FM 3321

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Wow, I so wish I found this website when I was 17. I was 24 when I first saw this site..haha.
 

ascalon

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Hah,don't worry man. I am sure you can't get that kinda decision at all. It's impossible just to "stop" meeting girls. There are everywhere! A friend of mine who showed me this website says that he always wanted to change because of the girls .Now he finds out that this change was not necessary(NOT USELESS!) at all,because there are chicks for everybody everywhere.Just do what you think you have to do and I am sure you will find your type of girl with the time.Just sit watch learn and don't miss your chances.


I think you know the worst scenario- the worst risk is not to take risks at all!

If you refuse meeting girls , you will .... (finish by yourself)
 

JesterX

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DamHE said:
MrConfidence giving advice?? Shouldn't you be begging for pity somewhere?
He's got a sense of humour. Haha I think he's busting on what he see's as all the "retards" on here and their assumptions because that's all we supposedly do is assume :rolleyes:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Zerotwoonenine

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lol buddy i was alot worse than you. You are busy and you have a clear goal for the future, you know where you are heading, stick to it and while studying, instead of watching tv, get the DJ guide and read that, you dont have to go out into the field right now, all you have to do first is get your life sorted. Once you got that out the way and manage your time properly, then you can have a good relationship, a girlfriend cannot make your life better if you havent got it sorted.
 

CactusMcDougal

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Zerotwoonenine said:
lol buddy i was alot worse than you. You are busy and you have a clear goal for the future, you know where you are heading, stick to it and while studying, instead of watching tv, get the DJ guide and read that, you dont have to go out into the field right now, all you have to do first is get your life sorted. Once you got that out the way and manage your time properly, then you can have a good relationship, a girlfriend cannot make your life better if you havent got it sorted.
Read the DJ Bible three times through. Nicely done book, but theory won't get me anywhere. But, yes, for the time being, I do not plan on going out in the field, as you say.
 

Zerotwoonenine

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thanks for the rep, for that you can have my personal collection of gold articles on sosuave.net, it took me 3 weeks to compile all these and it range from topic from first contact to what to do later. Just PM me or email me and i can send it to you. NO ONE HAS IT SINCE ITS MY PERSONAL COPY and since we relate, i decide i can pass it on to you. Thank me later.
 
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