How Effectionate Are You To Chicks?

[soulforge]

I find it difficult to show effection to chicks.. Always have done!

My main plate, sends me a text at least once or twice a week, to say she MISSES me..

Ha I struggle to say anything back.. on the odd occasion I will say, miss you too.. but that's kinda rare as fuk lol

How do you respond back to GF or plates, showing effection?

Do you say something back, or change the subject matter.

 

[flowtheory]

*Affection

I’m great at showing affection, because who doesn’t want to feel and share positive warm feelings? That’s a humans natural state. Expressive.

If one has issues with showing affection I would believe they are afraid to be vulnerable due to past hurts or traumas which they haven’t dealt with and they view being open as a liability.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

*Affection

I’m great at showing affection, because who doesn’t want to feel and share positive warm feelings? That’s a humans natural state. Expressive.

If one has issues with showing affection I would believe they are afraid to be vulnerable due to past hurts or traumas which they haven’t dealt with and they view being open as a liability.

What about sociopaths or users? They dont' really like other people...

 

[Red Legg]

*Affection

I’m great at showing affection, because who doesn’t want to feel and share positive warm feelings? That’s a humans natural state. Expressive.

If one has issues with showing affection I would believe they are afraid to be vulnerable due to past hurts or traumas which they haven’t dealt with and they view being open as a liability.

The key here is to know when to be effectionate and when not.When my gf cozies up to me in bed I have no problem with it as long as she she gives me a good d!ck suckin afterwards.

 

[soulforge]

The key here is to know when to be effectionate and when not.When my gf cozies up to me in bed I have no problem with it as long as she she gives me a good d!ck suckin afterwards.

I hear you.. I give the effection out sparingly, usually when she has been really good..

Reward good behaviour with effection, but don't give it out too freely.. Let her earn it.

 

[greatsnake]

I’m not affectionate with plates at all, because I don’t emotions from their side to get involved.
In a relationship, it’s a diferent story. I usually give as much affection as I get.

 

[Misterchaos]

*Affection

I’m great at showing affection, because who doesn’t want to feel and share positive warm feelings? That’s a humans natural state. Expressive.

If one has issues with showing affection I would believe they are afraid to be vulnerable due to past hurts or traumas which they haven’t dealt with and they view being open as a liability.

Damn I need to see a shrink.

 

[Desdinova]

How do you respond back to GF or plates, showing effection?

Verbally, not so much. In bed with my hands and mouth, well that's a different story.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Affection is only acceptable if she's the girlfriend or wife. Otherwise, she gets none of that ****. She has to earn affection.

Affection should rarely be verbal. Telling a woman how you feel about her is the easiest way to drop her interest level.

 

[CamCam]

I find it difficult to show effection to chicks.. Always have done!

My main plate, sends me a text at least once or twice a week, to say she MISSES me..

Ha I struggle to say anything back.. on the odd occasion I will say, miss you too.. but that's kinda rare as fuk lol

How do you respond back to GF or plates, showing effection?

Do you say something back, or change the subject matter.

I tend to be overly affectionate, which seems to have a bad affect. If they are affectionate to me, and I return the affection in kind or slightly more - she loses interest.

Didn't I read somewhere that you should give 2/3 of the affection you received from a girl? Maybe Roosh V wrote that somewhere - couldn't find a link

Affection is validating, isn't it? So for a girl to be deficient in validation puts her in a state of seeking it from you, correct?

 

[MrWood]

affection is validating in a sense.
affection displayed too early, too much, from the guy is off putting
affection needs to be balanced.. 2/3rds is a decent rule.

example on my last date
she likes abit more romantic style sex play, kissing the neck etc.. i gave it, in the bed.
on our walks and eating etc, I did not come at her to kiss etc... but reciprocated when she did
she reached for my hand, my arm... I accepted it
let her say the goodbyes first... let her initiate to me after the date, etc.

her: i like you so much
me: i like you too and had a good time
her: i would like a repeat
me: sure, I agree
her: how does two weeks from now sound?
me: great

her: i still feel you inside me
me: haha.. i left something inside you *wink
her: i like it when you cvm inside me

show intent
reciprocate at 2/3rds effort

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Well, one thing I know is lack of affection or warmth on the woman's part is a big turn off for me. Had a date with a Chinese lady, she wasn't very talkative and had her smart phone out in no time. So didn't bother with following it up....

 

[sosousage]

I find it difficult to show effection to chicks.. Always have done!

My main plate, sends me a text at least once or twice a week, to say she MISSES me..

Ha I struggle to say anything back.. on the odd occasion I will say, miss you too.. but that's kinda rare as fuk lol

How do you respond back to GF or plates, showing effection?

Do you say something back, or change the subject matter.

you sing her this song:

 

[lizardking82]

Well, one thing I know is lack of affection or warmth on the woman's part is a big turn off for me. Had a date with a Chinese lady, she wasn't very talkative and had her smart phone out in no time. So didn't bother with following it up....

That is not lack of affection. That is disrespect + lack of interest.

 

[zekko]

My main plate, sends me a text at least once or twice a week, to say she MISSES me..

If my girlfriend takes the time and energy to say she misses me, I usually say it back. If you're worried about gaming her, you can only do it 70% of the time. I can't remember the last time I INITIATED saying I miss you though.

I would like to be more affectionate with women in general. I see that as giving value.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

That is not lack of affection. That is disrespect + lack of interest.

That is why I used the word warmth. In a social setting [I'd met her a few times], rudeness comes across as cold. She probably doesn't know any better as she seemed to lack a system of basic manners. And though manners if formal can be cold, I think they might be required, to a certain extent, if people are to escape their isolation and develop relationships and a sense of community.

A person with a well-mannered disposition tends to initially be in a system of 'credit' [cred/ belief] with others [how many people smile at strangers today?]. It's a general quality that some people have, like a 'natural' affection, or good will. This general quality seems to me the basic preliminary to any kind of relationship developing. Yet, people today seem to be in a system of debt [and doubt] toward one another. And then this is reflected in the general nature of 'relationships' today.

It's a larger cultural and educational problem. For myself, I am screening heavily as I do not want to waste my time.

Perhaps our system of manners were 'anti-game', what enabled us all to get by without the need for game/egoism. It's like a world devolving from an international trading system and order to the chaos of isolationism and nationalism...

 

[soulforge]

If my girlfriend takes the time and energy to say she misses me, I usually say it back. If you're worried about gaming her, you can only do it 70% of the time. I can't remember the last time I INITIATED saying I miss you though.

I would like to be more affectionate with women in general. I see that as giving value.

I have NEVER initiated telling a girl, I MISS YOU.

However when they say i miss you, it seems somewhat ignorant to just ignore her.

So occasionally i say, miss you too.

But sometimes i ignore the subject, and she will directly ask AGAIN... DON'T YOU MISS ME TOO??

Then i have to respond back.. I generally leave effection showing, to the woman.

 

[CamCam]

affection is validating in a sense.
affection displayed too early, too much, from the guy is off putting
affection needs to be balanced.. 2/3rds is a decent rule.

example on my last date
she likes abit more romantic style sex play, kissing the neck etc.. i gave it, in the bed.
on our walks and eating etc, I did not come at her to kiss etc... but reciprocated when she did
she reached for my hand, my arm... I accepted it
let her say the goodbyes first... let her initiate to me after the date, etc.

her: i like you so much
me: i like you too and had a good time
her: i would like a repeat
me: sure, I agree
her: how does two weeks from now sound?
me: great

her: i still feel you inside me
me: haha.. i left something inside you *wink
her: i like it when you cvm inside me

show intent
reciprocate at 2/3rds effort

Good advice as always MrWood, noted. I have two dates this week, where I know both are keen to be intimate - I think it's a perfect chance to use some of this
Thanks

 

[sazc]

For women, affection is a huge part of feeling emotionally connected.

Emotionally connected women aren't looking at other dudes, they only swoon over their loves.

Consider it a HUGE red flag if you find a woman that is perfectly fine with you being emotionally disconnected, ignoring her/her attempts at connecting emotionally with you.

If she's asking if you miss her, how you feel about her, etc, and you ignore, if she has decent self esteem, consider this the beginning of the end of what you have with her.

"Affection" for men is the physical connection
"Affection" for Women is the mental connection

Good luck fellas

 

[sazc]

showing (initiating) and responding to affection puts the person in an emotionally vulnerable position. This can be uncomfortable for some people.

Perhaps this is the reason why

If you don't feel it there's no reason to say it