"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Comatozed

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You sleep with the girl on date 1.

I slept with HB7 after we were both quite drunk. I'd like to do so again but was wondering how to go about this, as I've never really had a **** buddy before and I don't know how to get her into this category, but as she put out so soon that's all I really see her as (too strict?)

Do you guys 'date' your **** buddies? I wouldn't mind doing that but once you've had sex it kinda feels like it would just be going through the motions until its time for sex.

Do the same rules apply in terms of making her wonder and not being too available like they would if I was trying to build attraction?

I've read girls should start to initiate more after sex, but i'm not sure this one will. She has messaged to say shes a bit embarrassed about ****ing me and thanks for the night. (is this a potential downfall of first night ****, they get embarrassed and so feel to bad about seeing you again?)

I just replied something basic for now and will likely hit her up in a few days...

but saying what exactly, I'm not sure yet...

any thoughts?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Update.

I messaged her, bla bla bla...

she said she "didn't think anything would happen between us after her sleeping with me on the first night and she was a bit embarrassed'

How would you respond to that?

She's a bit strange, one minute really submissive shy, the next playful confrontational (but not srsly). And her flipping between the two makes it hard to know which frame to set. It seems the minute I'm not keeping her in line she will get ****y but then kinda go back to submissive.

I just said 'you're not the first person to do what you did and you won't be the last, don't worry about it.'
 

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Comatozed said:
Update.

I messaged her, bla bla bla...

she said she "didn't think anything would happen between us after her sleeping with me on the first night and she was a bit embarrassed'

How would you respond to that?
Laugh it off. Do not engage is a serious discussion about it.
 
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