"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How does your approach change when..

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You sleep with the girl on date 1.

I slept with HB7 after we were both quite drunk. I'd like to do so again but was wondering how to go about this, as I've never really had a **** buddy before and I don't know how to get her into this category, but as she put out so soon that's all I really see her as (too strict?)

Do you guys 'date' your **** buddies? I wouldn't mind doing that but once you've had sex it kinda feels like it would just be going through the motions until its time for sex.

Do the same rules apply in terms of making her wonder and not being too available like they would if I was trying to build attraction?

I've read girls should start to initiate more after sex, but i'm not sure this one will. She has messaged to say shes a bit embarrassed about ****ing me and thanks for the night. (is this a potential downfall of first night ****, they get embarrassed and so feel to bad about seeing you again?)

I just replied something basic for now and will likely hit her up in a few days...

but saying what exactly, I'm not sure yet...

any thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Update.

I messaged her, bla bla bla...

she said she "didn't think anything would happen between us after her sleeping with me on the first night and she was a bit embarrassed'

How would you respond to that?

She's a bit strange, one minute really submissive shy, the next playful confrontational (but not srsly). And her flipping between the two makes it hard to know which frame to set. It seems the minute I'm not keeping her in line she will get ****y but then kinda go back to submissive.

I just said 'you're not the first person to do what you did and you won't be the last, don't worry about it.'
 
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Comatozed said:
Update.

I messaged her, bla bla bla...

she said she "didn't think anything would happen between us after her sleeping with me on the first night and she was a bit embarrassed'

How would you respond to that?
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Laugh it off. Do not engage is a serious discussion about it.
 
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