"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

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how does this look for an e-mail?

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This is an e-mail im writing some chick i havent talked to in almost a month. i figure i'd just send her an e-mail. Im sorda gandging her.

how does it look?


hey wuts up girl?

Havent talked to you in a while. Wut have you been up 2? prolly partying a lot eh? Lol i'v been doing a little 2 much of that. Sorry i havent called i'd been busy as hell with lots of different **** (school, work, real estate, clubbing, ladies lol). You must be miss talking to a guy as hot as me. anyway laterz

merry christmas



Jeff
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DUde, that email is shocking... Take out the part "a guy as hot as me" and find something else...you dont want 2 show that you are vain. she will think oh god- this guy hasnt changed, get over urself jeff, thats wat she will think and chances are she wont even reply. You need to be less vain in your approach and if you really care about this girl or you want to hook up with her, you gotta put more effort into that email? its way 2 short and it sounds like a 15 year wannabe is writing that...Change it!
 

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sorry i didnt exlpain the situtaion.


i went afc on her way back and then we became freinds so i just cut her off after a while cause she was putting everybody else ahead of me. (would start cutting convo's short and **** even though we were just friends) so i didnt not have a ****y attiude.

and im not gonna put that much effort tcause i dont really care about her.
 

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If you dont care at all about her and dont even want to **** her? what the hell are u doing e-mailing her? If you going 2 email her, what do you want out of it? There must be something...
 

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im actually digging her friend more but i figure hey if i could have some fun witht his one why not. But im not gonna waste 2 much time cause i got other girlz i like better.
 

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Originally posted by Fenderules
i went afc on her way back and then we became freinds so i just cut her off after a while cause she was putting everybody else ahead of me. (would start cutting convo's short and **** even though we were just friends) so i didnt not have a ****y attiude.
I'm sorry to say I tried the same thing a while back and it didn't work. I figured if I could demonstrate to her that I have a new confident attitude, I could spike her interest enough to get her to meet with me. Sadly, I couldn't do anything to change her last impression of me.

If you want to write to this girl, go ahead, but I expect it will be very difficult to change her last impression without spending some time with her in person.
 

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E-mail? wtf just call her.
 

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Vincent is right, why e-mail her? If you want her friend, you should be calling her friend, not her. Girls arent that dumb, they tend to know when you are using them to get to their friends. So, rather forget about that girl, she probably has bad named you with her friends already so you got another mission to pull off in this case, you say you like some other girl, so your email to this girl is a waste of time, rather you should be calling the girl you DO like and using your talents on her not this email person, and Jariel...Once you are with a girl and **** happens between the 2 of you , normally you will never get back together..
 

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oh im talking to the other girl thats not a prob. I just wanna make sure i stay friends with this one and dont come off afc cause they are best friends. the other one even when i was afc i didnt act afc around her, she was just so easy to get along with and now that im not an afc anymore, its even better!




i dont call the one i e-mailed cause im gandjing her. i would have not sent an e-mail if it was not christmas. I figured if i didnt do anything at all then it shows that i dont want to ahve anything to do with her since i saw her one day and walked right by her without even noticing her (i was mad so i said **** it and im not talking to her)

so its just an experiment. im not expecting anything at all. im just using any excuse to rub off some ****yness
 

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Originally posted by Jariel
I'm sorry to say I tried the same thing a while back and it didn't work. I figured if I could demonstrate to her that I have a new confident attitude, I could spike her interest enough to get her to meet with me. Sadly, I couldn't do anything to change her last impression of me.

If you want to write to this girl, go ahead, but I expect it will be very difficult to change her last impression without spending some time with her in person.
some girls are different, yours just happend to be a total un forgiving bytch. on that note. I've done the same although she sprung a complete 180 on me and her intrest picked right back up where it was.

however it wasn't like i started acting like i never did i just went back to the way i was. so it wasn't like i was putting up a visiable front i just became "normal" again.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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you're 18? why are you writting like you're 12? other then that, that e-mail should never be sent period. from the way you wrote it, you will come off as a guy that is very desperate to impress her.
 

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you're not being yourself, and wtf is gandjing this or that? you mean ganji or dj combined? have you seen the guy who wrote ganji theory on here? he's this fat video game/anime geek boy who is making a theory that probably will not work in reality.

Send whatever email or voicemail (she probably won't pick up, stupid b1tches) - just leave it plain and simple.
 
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Originally posted by Vincent
E-mail? wtf just call her.
I'm with DJ Vincent on this one - call her if you want to make a greater impact!!!
 

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Originally posted by Fenderules
This is an e-mail im writing some chick i havent talked to in almost a month. i figure i'd just send her an e-mail. Im sorda gandging her.

how does it look?


hey wuts up girl?

Havent talked to you in a while. Wut have you been up 2? prolly partying a lot eh? Lol i'v been doing a little 2 much of that. Sorry i havent called i'd been busy as hell with lots of different **** (school, work, real estate, clubbing, ladies lol). You must be miss talking to a guy as hot as me. anyway laterz

merry christmas



Jeff
Type using the basic rules of grammar. I use to type like you...until I realized that it made me look like a real dumbass.

But overall the email looks pretty good. Just get rid of the "talking to a guy as hot as me" line. It reeks insecurity.
 

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E-mail? wtf just call her.
I agree 100% with this!

Emailing should only be done if you don't have her number END OF STORY! Can you create a pattern with some fluff over an email? Emails like this one create no sort of FEELING.

My rule of thumb is only email if I don't have her number OR if I want to give her the gift of a poem to warm her heart.

Also your email is overflowing with errors, not only in typing but sounding way needy of acceptance. Never ever say directly that you're partying or doing all these things UNLESS it is brought up because this way you're seeking approval! Why are you trying to impress her like that anyway?

And whats up with the SORRY's? Ok, I'm done with this!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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