"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How does one juggle the many challenges of being a man?

FutureSpartan

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My priorities in life

1. The necessity these days to be a "value-added" to my employer/clients
2. The drive to be wealthy
3. The motivation to stay in shape, eat right
4. The time to build and maintain relationships with friends and family
5. The time to cultivate hobbies and passions
6. The need to stay updated on social trends, current events, and happenings
7. The ability to hack through dire circumstances and life's problems
8. The need to demonstrate masculinity in mindset, identity, poise, and actions

and then of course....

6. the immense challenge of being able to build and maintain intimate relationships with the opposite sex...


How can a man achieve all this without sacrificing one aspect over the other? I want to be a renaissance man....but from my experience its really hard to pull off! How do you guys do it?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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lugsy211

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Bump. I'm really interested in this thread. I always seem to be lacking in one or another of the criteria, and its usually 7. that holds me back the most.
 

Warrior74

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Discipline. It's a life long battle to develop for some, easy for others. I struggle with it every day.
 

YogurtSlinger

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Spend less time on the internet. Then you'll have more time for the rest of that BS.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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