Women don't seem to care for looks as much as us guys do. Personality can make the world of difference in attracting and keeping a girl. Alot of teachings here focus on eliminating fear and tips on approaches and closing the deal. But very little on helping one develop their personality. So how does one go about improving their personality?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How does one develop a great personality?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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most of it is, unfortunately, formed starting from the day you are in the womb, and nearly set in stone by the time you enter high school, but you can 'act' really well and just be nice, and respect everyone, until they do something to lose that respect, you will be fine.Originally posted by Sir Don
Women don't seem to care for looks as much as us guys do. Personality can make the world of difference in attracting and keeping a girl. Alot of teachings here focus on eliminating fear and tips on approaches and closing the deal. But very little on helping one develop their personality. So how does one go about improving their personality?
personality develops from birth, but can still be greatly influenced by what you do today. It can be influenced by who you hang out with, what you do, and most importantly (IMO) experiences.
For instance, immerse yourself in different cultures, and it will greatly develop your personality. Ask anyone who has been travelling, and they will tell you that it changed their personality and outlook on life to some degree.
Read books, watch the news, keep up on current affairs. FInd out about things that interest you. Find about about some things that don't interest you!! You might be surprised.
All these kinds of things add to you as a person, and as a result can shape your personality. Doing these kinds of things give you more to talk about, and can involve you in more conversations. Slowly but surely the personallity shines through.
And of course realise that no matter how good you think your personality is, you will still have personality clashes with plenty of people!!
For instance, immerse yourself in different cultures, and it will greatly develop your personality. Ask anyone who has been travelling, and they will tell you that it changed their personality and outlook on life to some degree.
Read books, watch the news, keep up on current affairs. FInd out about things that interest you. Find about about some things that don't interest you!! You might be surprised.
All these kinds of things add to you as a person, and as a result can shape your personality. Doing these kinds of things give you more to talk about, and can involve you in more conversations. Slowly but surely the personallity shines through.
And of course realise that no matter how good you think your personality is, you will still have personality clashes with plenty of people!!
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
that really depends though...what do you define great as? The epitome of a perfectionist?
Which direction do you want your personality to grow in?
Lazy, arrogant, rude snob....modest,friendly,outgoing,laid back...something to think about.
Often the friends/people you hang around often reflect a similar if not the same personality/interests as yours.
Which direction do you want your personality to grow in?
Lazy, arrogant, rude snob....modest,friendly,outgoing,laid back...something to think about.
Often the friends/people you hang around often reflect a similar if not the same personality/interests as yours.
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Originally posted by Sir Don
Women don't seem to care for looks as much as us guys do. Personality can make the world of difference in attracting and keeping a girl. Alot of teachings here focus on eliminating fear and tips on approaches and closing the deal. But very little on helping one develop their personality. So how does one go about improving their personality?
This has been pretty much the only post on this thread I read, but I may have an answer to it.
You have pretty much answered you're own question, sort of. By elmination fear of pretty much anything, you become a happier (for lack of a better word) person, which makes your personality better, because it makes you feel better, which ups your confidence, which gives you a good personality. It's like one huge circle.
Also, I have a feeling you may be talking about in initial conversations. I know, right now, for me, my conversations are not that great, but it will come with practice, and once again, making your personality shine through.
Furthermore, if a girl sees that you are not afraid to approach her, she will wonder, if done right, what else you are all about. If you use the tips on this board (I've used some, but it's difficult when starting out, which I am just starting out), a good personality can't help but be seen.
I hope that helps.
Re: Re: How does one develop a great personality?
I really don't have problem carrying conversation. comes with my job. Of course the conversation might not be as interesting as I would like it to be.Originally posted by The Nice Guy is Gone
Also, I have a feeling you may be talking about in initial conversations. I know, right now, for me, my conversations are not that great, but it will come with practice, and once again, making your personality shine through.
That's also the question I asked earlier, what constitude a "great" personality. What are the components?Originally posted by solo1
that really depends though...what do you define great as? The epitome of a perfectionist?
Which direction do you want your personality to grow in?
Lazy, arrogant, rude snob....modest,friendly,outgoing,laid back...something to think about.
Often the friends/people you hang around often reflect a similar if not the same personality/interests as yours.
The aspects you listed. I can say, I'm laid back, outgoing (half the time), friendly, modest (most times), arrogant (sometimes), lazy (for sure). I'm not rude nor a snob.