"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How does game change in a relationship?

wonderer

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How does game change? Or does it?

-I used to text only to set-up dates, now I'm finding myself texting more, still try to make it not everyday

-We meet once a week, this is how its always been, is this good?

-Being a mystery, how important is this now? I find myself telling her what I'm up to more now, only if its something that will boost my SMV.

I cant think of what else has changed right now but a lot of this forum is the initial meetings and getting the lay, how does game work in a relationship?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Between the time I met my girlfriend over a year ago and now there's little difference in the dynamic between us. I liked the way she was from the start and she liked me the way I was from the start. We still don't have text conversations, we only use texts to notify each other life if she won't be home because she's dropping by her mother etc. Even in the beginning we mostly used texts to plan dates and kept texting as a planning tool.

Don't change something that's good and works. If your game is good and it has become a part of how you are, it would be foolish to change it.

Being a mystery is short term tactic, for a long term relationship you gotta do the opposite. Don't keep things hidden, but don't constantly update on every little thing you do, that's annoying.

How often you want to meet is up to you two, however often you'd find best.
 

Jetleg

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No change.

Dont be a mystery, wont work for the long run.

Stay the same (mentally), never talk about complicated stuff, dont show weakness, ever.

Most importantly - be random, and dynamic, dont do the same thing over and over, that kills relationships.

Also - im always ready to leave, and if there is a slight change in her respect, i show it to her.
 
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Roober

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No change.

Dont be a mystery, wont work for the long run.

Stay the same (mentally), never talk about complicated stuff, dont show weakness, ever.

Most importantly - be random, and dynamic, dont do the same thing over and over, that kills relationships.

Also - im always ready to leave, and if there is a slight change in her respect, i show it to her.
This is money, especially "don't show weakness". One thing I can stress is keep everything 50/50. Put in as much as she puts in...

As bad as it sounds, you have to always be willing to walk away...

From my experience, don't talk on the phone and begin texting too much. I feel that's really what killed my last relationship, we talked several times a day, so she didn't really feel the need to get together. She could get her emotional attachment and everything she wanted to know about me on the phone...
 

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Make it clear covertly that you are still interested in other women (whether you are or not). The moment she thinks she has you domesticated, it all goes downhill. Less sex, less respect, just less of everything that makes dating and plate-spinning fun.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SgtSplacker

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In my opinion at the beginning it's all about having a great time while you are together so the relationship can survive hot/cold.


After things get serious it's all about calling her out at every opportunity to take advantage of the free negs. And doing whatever it takes to keep her from getting too comfortable in the relationship.
 
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