You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Yea? I'm sure those qualities are pretty essential, but I figure there would be more to it than thatNight Owl said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Depends on how boring or interesting the positives and negatives were. If you sit there and tell her about how good you are at D&D, how much RAM your computer has, and about the last hummel you bought, she'll forget about you pretty quickly and make excuses to avoid you in the future.
Have you actually tried being mean throughout an entire date? I'll bet you've tried being nice throughout an entire date. Being nice for the whole thing won't have as good of an effect unless you do 5hit that makes her jaw drop to the floor. That's why neg-hits and ****y/funny are effective. They make the woman feel something. The more she drops her jaw at the 5hit you do, the better. I've even gone as far as almost being a complete a55hole and the IL still soars through the roof.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
The "cherry-picking" was un-intentional, that was just one of the posts that stuck out the most at the time so I decided to follow-up on it... I try to check on my posts sporadically and respond/ acknowledge anything I find helpful, questionable or unconventionalTheHumanist said:
I bet that's probably true.Answers said:
Hey, I am not cynical. I am just a wise old owl, who know the ways of the world all too well.TheHumanist said:
I DEFINATELY see your logic, but is that example not a bit extreme...? I feel like taking a girl to McDonald's and making her pay wouldn't exactly be a desirable experience a girl would gush over... do you really have to resort to something that low to trigger memories, raise interest levels and be attractive? You can't just show her a fun time and be reasonably polite and nice?Desdinova said:
he was using it as an excuse.tsmith2334 said:
Of course you can. If you make the date extremely fun, different, and very enjoyable, she'll remember it well. That's probably the best way to do it. However, a woman will remember you just as well if your date is the extreme opposite. In fact, there's a good chance that she'll try to "change you" and make you less aggressive. Women like a good challenge, and she'll try to find a guy's "soft spot".
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.