How does a man have a successful marriage in 2021 and beyond

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I know most women are becoming more unmarriageable by the second, but what can we do about that? Nothing! I guess what I can say is that we need to control what we can control? You can control your:

1) Attitude
2) The woman you choose to marry
3) Finances
4) Physical appearance
5) Philosophy
6) Ditch the Disney/monetized romanticized image of marriage

Idk lol

 

[EyeBRollin]

Screen properly and set the tone of the relationship from the beginning. Also, it is essential to pick a girl that is all over you from the beginning. If dating her is difficult it will never work.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Marriage is something I want. I'm sure a lot of guys want a family of their own.

I feel like a life lived without kids, without grandkids, would end up being a pretty miserable one.

Coming home everyday to people who love you is something I think everyone should want.

Exactly, eventually a hard working man will need a reason for busting his ass out at work the majority of the day. Plus, who is going to take care of us when we are close to dying?

Screen properly and set the tone of the relationship from the beginning. Also, it is essential to pick a girl that is all over you from the beginning. If dating her is difficult it will never work.

What do you mean all over you? All over you could mean putting out on the first date vs respecting you vs being really submissive lol. In addition, why is this girl obsessed with you so early on? If it is because of your hair, will that reason alone help raise a healthy family?

 

[EyeBRollin]

What do you mean all over you? All over you could mean putting out on the first date vs respecting you vs being really submissive lol. In addition, why is this girl obsessed with you so early on? If it is because of your hair, will that reason alone help raise a healthy family?

She needs to start with about an 8/10 interest level. Aka, when you meet her she’s already decided based off of looks that she would give you some babies.

 

[RickTheToad]

I think you dudes need to get your life in perspective. Search gray divorce an how more common they are over the past few years...

 

[Modern Man Advice]

I know most women are becoming more unmarriageable by the second, but what can we do about that? Nothing! I guess what I can say is that we need to control what we can control? You can control your:

1) Attitude
2) The woman you choose to marry
3) Finances
4) Physical appearance
5) Philosophy
6) Ditch the Disney/monetized romanticized image of marriage

Idk lol

Second what @EyeBRollin about screening. The best way is to first:

1 - Know your worth
2 - Have high standards
3 - Hard vetting during the dating phase

Realistically speaking, with modern feminism, weak men, media, technology (OLD), and intergender dynamics monogamy is a thing of the past. Polygamy is looking like it will be the future as no one is willing to commit and make the effort.

Modern Man Advice

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Second what @EyeBRollin about screening. The best way is to first:

1 - Know your worth
2 - Have high standards
3 - Hard vetting during the dating phase

Realistically speaking, with modern feminism, weak men, media, technology (OLD), and intergender dynamics monogamy is a thing of the past. Polygamy is looking like it will be the future as no one is willing to commit and make the effort.

Modern Man Advice

Normally when the "polygamy" term is used it means men with multiple wives. But with "weak men", i take it you meaning women will have multiple men?

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Normally when the "polygamy" term is used it means men with multiple wives. But with "weak men", i take it you meaning women will have multiple men?

That is correct.

The term "Polygamy" states:

"the practice or custom of having more than one wife or husband at the same time."

But with the rise of feminized "weak" men, polygamy will be advertised by a feminized society and female empowerment looking to be equal to men.

Modern Man Advice

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I think you dudes need to get your life in perspective. Search gray divorce an how more common they are over the past few years...

search failure of small business startups, should we just give up hope on everything and live under a rock?

 

[Robert28]

For years I wanted to get married. Now you couldn’t pay me to get married. Most women don’t even want to be in a relationship longer than a few months, then they get bored and are off to the next “hawt guy”. Or they’re old and stuck in their ways and cut off the sex spigot but have insanely high demands you must meet. Nah, I’m good on the marriage thing.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

For years I wanted to get married. Now you couldn’t pay me to get married. Most women don’t even want to be in a relationship longer than a few months, then they get bored and are off to the next “hawt guy”. Or they’re old and stuck in their ways and cut off the sex spigot but have insanely high demands you must meet. Nah, I’m good on the marriage thing.

are you vetting out women or just going for quantity over quality?

 

[Robert28]

are you vetting out women or just going for quantity over quality?

If you spend your time vetting women for marriage you shrink your pool significantly. I avoid the obvious red flags (fresh out of an “abusive relationship”, fresh out of divorce, narcissist, women in their late 30’s trying to live like they did in their 20’s, etc). You get in a lot of trouble when you’re out on the hunt trying to get married.

 

[2Rocky]

If you Create and Nurture ALL the Relationships in your life, you are in a mindset to make it work. Parents, Siblings, Friends etc....

 

[RickTheToad]

search failure of small business startups, should we just give up hope on everything and live under a rock?

Not sure a business failure equates to a successful marriage, but whatever work for you.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Not sure a business failure equates to a successful marriage, but whatever work for you.

The point is- 80% of small businesses fail. If we took the attitude many have regarding marriage and applied to those statistics, there is no reason to start a business either.

 

[RickTheToad]

The point is- 80% of small businesses fail. If we took the attitude many have regarding marriage and applied to those statistics, there is no reason to start a business either.

Cool story dude.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Not sure a business failure equates to a successful marriage, but whatever work for you.

why not lol

 

[BadBoy89]

Marriage is something I want. I'm sure a lot of guys want a family of their own.

You don't need marraige to have a family. If the woman loves she can give you 2 kids and act like a loving family without giving her legal and financial power.

I feel like a life lived without kids, without grandkids, would end up being a pretty miserable one.

What if your kids were gay? Or criminals? Or losers? Would you still love to have them?

Coming home everyday to people who love you is something I think everyone should want.

Fair enough. I've rather have money and power.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Success is of course a subjective word, but here's my take.

Most of us have a favorite meal, but we'd tire of it - if having the same menu every night.
We've all rubbed one out by looking at a centerfold spread or a good porn clip ... but eventually we have to turn the page or watch a new clip because the hot gal is no longer stimulating us.
Meanwhile, with this fact of reality, most people throw all logic aside and convince ourselves that they'll beat the marriage odds. All your divorced friends and family thought the same thing... and look at them now.

As a bachelor, you have the choice to leave an unbearable situation. As a married man, you have to sleep with the same woman the rest of your life. Unless someone is lonely or is a hostage to "keeping up with the Jones's" ... the idea of voluntarily enslaving oneself seems odd.

Some might argue, "oh but what about having children." Good point and I do believe that a child needs involvement from both parents. However (and I'm this will raise some hair) why have children? If we're honest with ourselves... this is usually a result of feeling some void in our own lives and bringing a child into this world as our "second chance" or fulfils some need in our lives of being needed.

 

[Robert28]

You don't need marraige to have a family. If the woman loves she can give you 2 kids and act like a loving family without giving her legal and financial power.



What if your kids were gay? Or criminals? Or losers? Would you still love to have them?



Fair enough. I've rather have money and power.

Having kids with a woman you aren’t married to is foolish. Not only are you on the hook for child support (which many kids never see anyways) but she can keep you out of the kids life easily. And you still have to pay.