"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How does a DJ/sosuaver "win" a girl back?

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It's not neccessarily shallow. If a girl will ONLY date men with 6 packs or whatever, that is shallow. Same for the gold-diggers.
Gold-diggers are vampires. They suck and suck and suck. Give little to nothing in return. I think a woman does have a legitimate reason dating people who have $$$ or success if they also have $$$ or success themselves.

However, a woman may look at you and think "6/10", then you get fit and she thinks "9/10". That's not her being shallow, it's just a legitimate response to the improvement you've made to your body.
"Hot" is "hot" and it works. It reaches a womans LIZARD brain, meaning it bypasses logical thought. All of us should aspire to be able to fulfill a womans core base desires in a man.

Would you want to date an obese chick? If not, that's not you being shallow, it's just having some degree of self-respect and standards.
Not sure.

So if she's ONLY interested because you're now ripped, yeah don't date her. But it may be that she was previously interested but not attracted enough to date you. That's perfectly understandable and not based in having a shallow personality.
You can date and fvck her. I'm not sure I would want to be counting on her though.
 
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