"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How do your Long Distance Relationships end?

bud_2005

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I am a senior in HS and I dated this girl which goes to a different school. She lives about 70 miles away from me. We were "going out" for 1.5 months but I had only 3 dates with her. My game was really good the whole time and I actually was told by her sister that she jumping up and down and telling everyone I was coming to town. In the third and final date everything went really good and she was displaying high interest. That date was on a Saturday. Throughout the next week we talk very little because she ends all the conversations in a few minutes. I sense a break up and she does break up with me at the end of the week. The reason she says is because the Long Distance thing isn't working.(I wasn't going to get to see her for another two weeks). She told she wants to come to my house and ride horses and hang out though.


I've ended all contact with her. That was about a month ago and I keep thinking about her more and more and I may want to get back with her. In the next month I will be seeing her a couple times and gauge if she may still like me.

In conclusion how do most long distance relationships end and may I still have a chance.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DeathDealer

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70 miles isn't long distance. It's a long drive.

Still have a chance at what? Do you know what you want?
 

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No don't end it!

Seriously don't end it. Cool off, its not too long distance. Its long distance when you are in Vietnam and she is in Malibu. or vise versa.

Just loss the communication a bit too long foor her to miss you. Then you can smack her right in there though.
 

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Well I texted her today "Happy Valentines Day", and she replied with "Hey you too why don't we talk anymore". So it looks like my not talking too her is having some effect. What could be a good reply to this? I was thinking "The phone goes both ways you know" but they may be a lil too jerkish.
 

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Originally posted by bud_2005
Well I texted her today "Happy Valentines Day", and she replied with "Hey you too why don't we talk anymore". So it looks like my not talking too her is having some effect. What could be a good reply to this? I was thinking "The phone goes both ways you know" but they may be a lil too jerkish.
call her, not text .
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Here is how mine ended: I found out she had cheated on me with multiple people, I freak out because we were pretty much engaged and I always had the upper hand, I turn into a complete AFC, find out more lies, bottle up energy, freak out when I'm drunk and break a glass on the floor when I'm in her house and get put in a drunk tank by the police.

Goodbye to AFC behavior forever. I dated a lunatic that got off on turning me into one and I was just too stupid to realize it.

That was a while back but it had a great impact on my life. I realized I didn't need this person to be happy and confident.
 

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I probably messed it up tonight. I got mad at her on msn because i started a conversation and she would barely talk so i said"and you wonder why we don't talk because you'll barely say anything". I still have feelings for her but I don't want to look desperate either.
 

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Originally posted by Dingus
Here is how mine ended: I found out she had cheated on me with multiple people, I freak out because we were pretty much engaged and I always had the upper hand, I turn into a complete AFC, find out more lies, bottle up energy, freak out when I'm drunk and break a glass on the floor when I'm in her house and get put in a drunk tank by the police.

Goodbye to AFC behavior forever. I dated a lunatic that got off on turning me into one and I was just too stupid to realize it.

That was a while back but it had a great impact on my life. I realized I didn't need this person to be happy and confident.
Yo man that sucks dude. At least you learned.
 
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