"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you usually turn a bar date into something more?

Shivastorm_88

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I know it's a broad question and it'll vary from situation to situation, but do you guys usually have a pattern of some sort, like once the IL seems to be getting higher and higher propose to go for a walk to kiss-close or something like that?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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PapiChulo

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Take her somewhere fun, or some romantic place, kiss close, then invite her to check out your CD collection. It depends on how high the interest is. It is a bar date, meaning she is tipsy....
 

PapiChulo

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Escalation is like a ladder, if the bars in the middle are missing you aren't getting the honey.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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pdx1138

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once you know they've had at least two drinks, if you see them showing IL, somehow manage to get your hands on their legs and caress....if they don't comment and just keep having a good time, at some point during a good eye contact you can sweep in for a kiss.

Just did that recently.
 
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