Komodo
Master Don Juan
If I know a girl is ugly and has a goodlooking friend I'll try to get in good with her.But I am generally nice to everyone I meet.What are some of your opinions?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Well if the DJB is right, being approached by 5/6's means you're on your way to being approached by 7/8/9's.Originally posted by MrNiceGuy
Occasionally an ugly girl will try and pick me up. Last couple of times this has happened to me has been towards the end of a night in a night club, thing is, I was pissed off from not having any succes so I just looked at this girl, thought NO, responded politely to whatever she'd said and then ignored her. I felt kinda bad for a while after, cos this is the sort of thing hot girls do to us occasionally. But I just wasnt in the mood for talking (or anything more) to anyone I didnt immediately find attractive.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That's why they were born!Originally posted by Bungo Pony
I use them as social proof. I'd flirt with the ugly ones - to a point. If they spread the word and display that they like you, it'll get other women interested. You refuse to go out with her, and you become a challenge. Others will try and get with you as well. Once you get enough women interested, pick the one that you want.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.