Komodo
Master Don Juan
If I know a girl is ugly and has a goodlooking friend I'll try to get in good with her.But I am generally nice to everyone I meet.What are some of your opinions?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How do you treat ugly girls?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I treat ugly girls the same way I treat pretty girls.
It's good to treat everyone the same, and it never hurts to have allies. Having said that what do you do when a girl you're not attracted to gets a crush on you? I've had this happen and in the past I would just avoid them and act sort of cold, hoping they'd get the hint, but this only encouraged them (challenge principle).
Occasionally an ugly girl will try and pick me up. Last couple of times this has happened to me has been towards the end of a night in a night club, thing is, I was pissed off from not having any succes so I just looked at this girl, thought NO, responded politely to whatever she'd said and then ignored her. I felt kinda bad for a while after, cos this is the sort of thing hot girls do to us occasionally. But I just wasnt in the mood for talking (or anything more) to anyone I didnt immediately find attractive.
The other annoying thing is when you get talking to two girls, theres often the talkative ugly girl that seems to like you, and the much quieter but sexier friend who pays you little attention, I guess in those situations you need a good reliable wingman ( a friend of mine always used his best mate, who was in a LTR, as a wingman to occupy the ugly girl)
of course appearances can be deceptive, but it takes time to find out..
The other annoying thing is when you get talking to two girls, theres often the talkative ugly girl that seems to like you, and the much quieter but sexier friend who pays you little attention, I guess in those situations you need a good reliable wingman ( a friend of mine always used his best mate, who was in a LTR, as a wingman to occupy the ugly girl)
of course appearances can be deceptive, but it takes time to find out..
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Well if the DJB is right, being approached by 5/6's means you're on your way to being approached by 7/8/9's.
In an ideal situation, I try for this: I'm kind but I restrict my body language. I just plow into the conversation, be nice to her for a few minutes of good conversation, then I say I have to talk with my friends but it was great talking with her/I'll see her around.
Being nice to ugly girls, is a great idea for meeting hot chicks. They usually have tons of hot freinds, and if thier friends see you treating an ugly well because you WANT to, not because she the only one who will talk to you, then you make big impression in the mind of hott chicks. They start thinking he really has to be something special if hes that CONFIDENT that he doesnt care what other think about him, that he doesnt want me just to **** my brains out, its funny but I know girls who think like this. Or you will have the wtf is he talking to her for, then girls will get a bit jealous or competive, mind you this only really works if your good looking and really confident otherwise you come off as your trying to pick the ugly girl up. In case your not good looking be freindly but, not overly freindly, or flirty.
If I am horny as hell after the bars and the hott chykks are putting up too much of a fight to go home with me,.. for eg.,
If she says..(here's my number call me...) or (I don't even know you) or (I have a boyfriend so thanx but no thanx) or (didn't I date your friend blah blah) or (I am on the rag) or (didn't you fukk my friend)....Then I fukk phat chykks...
I could give two shytts if anyone knows!!
Sorry....I just thought I would share that..
The Edge ' Some have it, and some don't '
If she says..(here's my number call me...) or (I don't even know you) or (I have a boyfriend so thanx but no thanx) or (didn't I date your friend blah blah) or (I am on the rag) or (didn't you fukk my friend)....Then I fukk phat chykks...
I could give two shytts if anyone knows!!
Sorry....I just thought I would share that..
The Edge ' Some have it, and some don't '
Bungo Pony
Master Don Juan
I use them as social proof. I'd flirt with the ugly ones - to a point. If they spread the word and display that they like you, it'll get other women interested. You refuse to go out with her, and you become a challenge. Others will try and get with you as well. Once you get enough women interested, pick the one that you want.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
ATLDonJuan35
Don Juan
I treat all females the same cause if you treat one different you got to do that to all of them but as far as ugly chicks they don't have anything to loose really, so I say just be careful on how you do treat them.
Treat them well
I think you have to treat them well because girls are always talking together. Being great with these girls is a fantastic boost in the way girls look a t you. The nice girls talk with the ugly girls and if you are not well with them, they notice that you are only nice to the beautiful ones and you're not going to have any opportunity with them.
Moreover, they are not used to be treated this way by other guys so you're going to be totally different and for sure they'll find you totally different from the other guys, and trust me, they will tell it to the others.
These girls help you getting the good ones, so TREAT THEM WELL.
I think you have to treat them well because girls are always talking together. Being great with these girls is a fantastic boost in the way girls look a t you. The nice girls talk with the ugly girls and if you are not well with them, they notice that you are only nice to the beautiful ones and you're not going to have any opportunity with them.
Moreover, they are not used to be treated this way by other guys so you're going to be totally different and for sure they'll find you totally different from the other guys, and trust me, they will tell it to the others.
These girls help you getting the good ones, so TREAT THEM WELL.
Chemistry
Master Don Juan
If the ugly chick is a friend, then treat her as you would do any other friend of a potential target... friend's have so much sway for girls and their decisions about the guy they see, so if you impress the friends, and she starts talkin to the girl you actually are with, or want about how great you are, then it will boost your chances and longevity no end...
I do joke on ugly girls tho'... not to their faces but today I was up in a Burger King and we were just lookin out the window onto the high street and laughin' and jokin' about certain chicks who you just wouldn't get with...
If a girl is ugly tho', I wouldn't even try to pull her Edge style, lol... I need to be attracted in some way to her... my criteria is simple, when I first see her if I don't have that physical attraction hit me, then I don't pursue... the ones that I have that attraction with on the first sight, I talk with them and make my decisions based on just how well I get on with this girl...
I do joke on ugly girls tho'... not to their faces but today I was up in a Burger King and we were just lookin out the window onto the high street and laughin' and jokin' about certain chicks who you just wouldn't get with...
If a girl is ugly tho', I wouldn't even try to pull her Edge style, lol... I need to be attracted in some way to her... my criteria is simple, when I first see her if I don't have that physical attraction hit me, then I don't pursue... the ones that I have that attraction with on the first sight, I talk with them and make my decisions based on just how well I get on with this girl...
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
I treat ugly girls like sh!t.
I treat hot girls like sh!t.
This is why I succeed.
I treat hot girls like sh!t.
This is why I succeed.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I think its definitely right to try and remember to be nice to everyone, the point about the girls talking to their friends about you is spot on..
Girls who I've thought were checking me out have started ignoring me after I act indifferent to their ugly friends, gotta try and remain a friendly person even If I am in a bad mood and filled with MUST PULL PRETTY GIRLS mentality. Trouble is once I've worked myself up to that state anyone that doesnt immediately meet my standards just wont do. I guess the solution is to remain.. shall we say, open minded on the these things,
Girls who I've thought were checking me out have started ignoring me after I act indifferent to their ugly friends, gotta try and remain a friendly person even If I am in a bad mood and filled with MUST PULL PRETTY GIRLS mentality. Trouble is once I've worked myself up to that state anyone that doesnt immediately meet my standards just wont do. I guess the solution is to remain.. shall we say, open minded on the these things,
Turki
Don Juan
Any girl worth having will not be with a guy who treats a girl like sh*t just coz she's a warpig. Just treat every chick with equal disdain and you'll be right